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Store sells booze to minor

111 replies

NorahNorah · 23/09/2024 01:46

What would you do?
Spirits purchased by u18 with someone elses Id .. a child ends up in hospital.
Not about blame , that said , let's "keep it real" and even if no one ended up in hospital ( or worse ) what action would you take?

OP posts:
AdviceNeeded2024 · 01/10/2024 13:12

TinkerTiger · 01/10/2024 12:32

Blame lies with the parents if you're looking to blame someone. That a child was able to get to the shops and then consume the alcohol shows a lack of proper supervision 💁🏽‍♀️

It’s hard to decipher the nonsense being posted by the OP but one thing is clear…

The OP is clearly looking to blame anyone and everyone except the parents and the kids involved. Apparently police, teachers and social workers should be educating the kids on this and giving them a lecture, rather than shock horror the parents actually parenting!

GoldenNuggets08 · 01/10/2024 13:41

OnYourTogs · 01/10/2024 12:37

'Give out to' or giving out is an Irish expression and the OP likely did not know what it meant.

Yes I know that, that's why I explained what give out to means.... it was the rest of her questions I wasn't fully sure on....... "Say you find out after the fact, what would be your thoughts on that , what would/could you do ?"

DoreenonTill8 · 01/10/2024 14:03

NorahNorah · 01/10/2024 12:06

All under 18

Well obviously or there would be no point to the thread... how under 18?

CoffeeGood · 01/10/2024 15:06

NorahNorah · 01/10/2024 12:03

I'm first to say that I don't know what happened, and what I have is a piece here or there from this person and that - as soon as they saw the potential ramifications, they circled together and wouldnt say anything about each other.

This not accusation, i'm not laying blame or pointing fingers - I want to talk this through at every level we are able, be better informed and hopefully of better service to the coming generation.

If things seem ambiguous, it's because the specifics only matter up to a point. For me any way, it's about how they access it, what they do with it and how they handle themselves - collectively - as a group concerned with each-others best interests
and how, WE, handle ourselves as a community - the seniors, the elders, the ones with the knowledge, with the experience - it us on us to do the best for the coming generation.

What kind of ID is irrelevant if there's no screening process.
Who is responsible? No one and everyone.
We can't argue it's solely them, that nobody forced "them" to buy it, nobody forced them to drink and nobody forced them to drink so much - because we know full well that peer presure will make people do much, much more - all in the name of being accepted.
And that, is on all of us.
We're all posting, many repeatedly using the word, "child" - that's perhaps where the whole thing starts and finishes.

and how, WE, handle ourselves as a community - the seniors, the elders, the ones with the knowledge, with the experience - it us on us to do the best for the coming generation.

No, it's up to the PARENTS of the child to teach them about such subjects . MY children and their education (outside of the school system, I'm not bright enough to tackle that!) is MY responsibility and NO ONE else's. If by chance they get a lesson at school, or elsewhere in the community about the dangers of alcohol, or any other social situation, then that is a bonus, but the onus is on ME to ensure my child is solid in their confidence and knowledge to be able to resist peer pressure, know what's right and wrong and to stand up to and for friends.

Who is responsible? No one and everyone.

The parents. I'm not responsible for educating your child on something you failed to do, neither are seniors, elders, preachers, teachers or random strangers!

We can't argue it's solely them, that nobody forced "them" to buy it, nobody forced them to drink and nobody forced them to drink so much - because we know full well that peer presure will make people do much, much more - all in the name of being accepted.
And that, is on all of us.

It's not on me. MY job is to teach MY child to withstand peer pressure and to also not pressure any of their friends to do anything either. My daughter is 16 and I've already witnessed her standing strong on both sides of the pressure issue. It's not my fault if other parents haven't properly taught their children right from wrong, strong enough for it to stick.

HotSource · 01/10/2024 15:15

Our local shop was closed down because of kids using fake / forged and other people's id. Some parent (s) of of these dishonest selfish little shits complained, the owner was fined a huge fine and closed his shop.

It's an estate agents now.

MermaidEyes · 01/10/2024 15:54

NorahNorah · 01/10/2024 12:03

So - given that happened, will continue to happen, all over the country, for people of all ages - what we can we do in our own lives to make change?
That's the biggie ✌🏽

Err, probably nothing? Young people have been getting drunk all over the world for decades. It's unlikely to ever change. For 99% of them it just ends with a massive hangover not a stomach pump.

I really don't understand all your agonising and wondering what 'preachers and elders' can do 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm really curious OP if you drink alcohol, and at what age you started drinking and whether you've ever drunk to excess?

SprigatitoYouAndIKnow · 01/10/2024 16:18

Surely the child experienced the consequences of their actions. If they were a teenager they knew exactly what they were doing and that it was illegal. I can personally relate that drinking malibu and going on the swings at the park age 15 taught me to never drink malibu again. Valuable life lesson.

Don't try and get someone to lose their livelihood because kids did what kids have done since time immemorial.

TheaBrandt · 01/10/2024 17:54

The reaction is if the shop assistant found ops 6 year old and poured gin down his throat.

DoreenonTill8 · 01/10/2024 21:25

SprigatitoYouAndIKnow · 01/10/2024 16:18

Surely the child experienced the consequences of their actions. If they were a teenager they knew exactly what they were doing and that it was illegal. I can personally relate that drinking malibu and going on the swings at the park age 15 taught me to never drink malibu again. Valuable life lesson.

Don't try and get someone to lose their livelihood because kids did what kids have done since time immemorial.

Same but with peach schnapps and sambuca 🤮

IDontHateRainbows · 01/10/2024 21:37

DoreenonTill8 · 01/10/2024 21:25

Same but with peach schnapps and sambuca 🤮

It was cider for me. Ended up collapsed on a bench waking up to two coppers standing over me
Once they realised I was not alone ( mates were sat nearby) they couldn't give a shit and left! Mid 90s.

Bs0u416d · 01/10/2024 21:56

MermaidEyes · 01/10/2024 15:54

Err, probably nothing? Young people have been getting drunk all over the world for decades. It's unlikely to ever change. For 99% of them it just ends with a massive hangover not a stomach pump.

I really don't understand all your agonising and wondering what 'preachers and elders' can do 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm really curious OP if you drink alcohol, and at what age you started drinking and whether you've ever drunk to excess?

I'd hazard a guess that she's well on her way to drinking to excess this evening. Her replies become more derailed and unreliable each time she posts.

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