Should I open or leave them - head wobbling

[upto10andbackagain]

So this is the situation

My DD has done her GCSE , she is expecting to get good results and has her heart set on six form college .

She's a great girl , very independent and feisty . Working hard in part time job.

We have paid half towards a ticket at Leeds fest . She's going with friends and older siblings.

Leeds fest starts the day before results come through . She's having them delivered by post .

I'm going to have to look at that envelope and resist opening it for 5 days until she returns

How the hell am I going to do that !

When everyone is feeling reassured or knowing results I won't know anything

Aibu to want her to let me open it and know the grades ?

Our school are releasing the results via the app at 8am on results day. If they have been offered a place at sixth form (this was done via email before exams started) then they have from 8am till 10am to accept the place. It then closes and the app then becomes available from 11am to midday for students who are not at the school to accept their place in sixth form.

If you don't accept your place on the day, you won't get a place at all.

They aren't sending results out and are discouraging collection of results in person unless you can't get online to access them.

Does she have a deadline to deal with like that at all? We are away the last two weeks of August and our son is currently away somewhere else and will join us for the last week of our holiday and I'm having to log on, view his results and accept his place for him because he is travelling on that day.

We are away the last two weeks of August and our son is currently away somewhere else and will join us for the last week of our holiday and I'm having to log on, view his results and accept his place for him because he is travelling on that day.

I have never been able to understand why people plan to be away during GCSE and A level results days. Covid excepting the results are always out on the same Thursdays of August. Also, schools always make it very clear when results day is a long time in advance.

Put them in her room in a visible location i.e. on her desk. Close the bedroom door and leave it closed. Tell her what you have done and leave the rest to her. She sounds a lovely young lady. Enjoy watching her step into the next phase of her life and be there with a cuppa to celebrate or to guide.

I expect I'm echoing every poster so far, but unless she has asked you open her results and let her know what they are, YABVU.

However, you aren't being unreasonable to hope she will ask you - I got my mum to open my final exam results for my accountancy exams 😁

Tbh she can’t do anything with her results anyway . Let her open them when she gets back she will be exhausted and hopefully give her a nice boost when she gets home .

put them out of sight so they aren’t looking at you

Here I am updating !
So she's still away until late Monday
The envelope arrived on Friday and I tucked it away , respecting her wishes
And didn't look
The next day we got an email from her school six form saying " congratulations, please confirm your place " so I guess she's done ok .
She's rang a few times to say she's having a great time but wants to open them with us on Monday . So that's what's happening.

' we ' got an email - who got the email

as I am surprised the email said

Hello Upto10andbackagain, congratulations on YOUR results, please confirm your space etc.
or
Hello MrUpto10andbackagain see above
or
HellodaughterofUpto10andbackagain see above

anyway now you know...

Good news. Whilst waiting for my DS to get out of bed to check on how he did with O Level results, his phone, that he’d left charging, pinged message from University saying congratulations we look forward to welcoming you.

@OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon

The "we" was to my husband / her dad .
It said
"Congratulations (her name) on your gcse results , please let us know if you wish to accept etc
He forwarded it to me and her

She obviously used her dads email address not that it matters ........

I would want my mum to open them for me and tell me instead of waiting 😂

At my DS’s sixth form you had to enrol by end of play on Friday so waiting wouldn’t have worked. Also teachers were on hand on Thursday and Friday to discuss your results and options if you didn’t get what you needed or did better than you thought and want to change subjects.

OP, when does your DD have to enrol?

I don’t get all the cool moms on this thread claiming it’s none of OP’s business. OP raised this child and will have put huge amounts into getting her to this point and through the exams.

Of course she shouldn’t open them, but claiming they’re nothing to do with her and she shouldn’t have a problem waiting is entirely disingenuous.

I agree. I also find it really odd that the young person isn’t desperate to know themselves.

@Rainallnight . That's exactly how I feel
She is a child supported by us but wants to make her own decisions which I agree with but doesn't have the full maturity to think of the consequences.

I thought she would have caved by now , but I also know she is incredibly stubborn and has a tendency to avoid , put head deep in sand if she's unsure

I know these exams mean a lot and she's worried so avoiding

@Rollergirl11
She's due to enrol on Tuesday . I did contact the college of her choice before to say she wasn't opening her results till day before enrolment and they said that's fine . So let's hope that's still ok
She wants to do a very popular course and was offered a conditional offer

I just want to get it sorted .