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EG20221973 · 2024-04-14T18:25:38+00:00

My 14 year old has changed her Insta account from private to public (without my permission) and been contacted by a man in India. Their conversation moved over to Whatsapp, which is the point where I discovered what was happening. His country code is +91 which is India. I blocked him but now he has contacted her on another number, also +91. I have taken steps to address this internet behaviour and choices with my teen. My question is, other than block this man, is there anything else I can do with the numbers he is using? I expect my daughter is not the only young girl he is trying to talk to. Thank you. [Title edited by MNHQ]

babyproblems · 16/04/2024 12:22

I used to deal with suppliers from India for work and honestly he will not stop contacting her now. She needs to change her number. He will persist… also she needs more parental control - this is dangerous what she has done x

Coshei · 16/04/2024 13:13

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 16/04/2024 09:57

I would be tempted to write him a letter to his address in India very sternly telling him to never contact your child again and he will be reported to local police and you will follow through with local lawyers if he does. Don't mention your daughters name insta handle or address as he's probably done this to quite a few girls so the letter will protect them all. Hopefully his wife or mother will see the letter too!

This is a joke, right?

TheOccupier · 16/04/2024 21:30

Noadvertising · 16/04/2024 12:16

Your information is incorrect. The man repeatedly contact a child is grooming. The Police will take action. If it were in the uk the male could be issued with an abduction notice which prohibits him making further contact with the child. If he then continues to make contact he can be arrested. His computer, phone etc would then be seized and examined to determine the extent of his contact with said child. This is a routine enquiry for a child sex exploitation team.

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That's not the definition of grooming. You have to prove that the contact was for the purpose of sexually abusing the child. The OP has not mentioned the content of the messages. You also have to prove that the "groomer" knew the child was under the age of consent. Nowhere has OP said that the man knows her daughter's age.

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EG20221973 · 17/04/2024 10:53

TheOccupier · 16/04/2024 21:30

That's not the definition of grooming. You have to prove that the contact was for the purpose of sexually abusing the child. The OP has not mentioned the content of the messages. You also have to prove that the "groomer" knew the child was under the age of consent. Nowhere has OP said that the man knows her daughter's age.

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Look, I started this thread with the specific query of what to do with these two +91 numbers. That query has now been answered.
I was contacted by a Child Protection Advisor (off the back of the report I made) and other than possibly inform my child's school, she agreed that I've taken all possible steps to reduce contact and protect my child. The man's Insta account has been reported.
So any semantics now are not needed, thanks all the same.
I would argue that this person does know my daughters age as he saw all her selfies on her Insta and sent her a message asking her to chat. So if we could just leave this thread here, I'd appreciate it. Certainly don't need to hear anymore of your opinion thanks.

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MILTOBE · 17/04/2024 11:06

AtomHeartMotherOfGod · 14/04/2024 20:25

WTF - where has she been the last 10 years during talks about giving out personal information to people on the internet?

I am beyond shocked. Why is she even interested in pursuing a relationship with a MAN at age 14?!

My children are 14 and 12, although DS and DD, so thank you for giving me a check to keep up channels of communication about these things.

If you read the thread you would see the child has special needs.

TheOccupier · 17/04/2024 21:45

EG20221973 · 17/04/2024 10:53

Look, I started this thread with the specific query of what to do with these two +91 numbers. That query has now been answered.
I was contacted by a Child Protection Advisor (off the back of the report I made) and other than possibly inform my child's school, she agreed that I've taken all possible steps to reduce contact and protect my child. The man's Insta account has been reported.
So any semantics now are not needed, thanks all the same.
I would argue that this person does know my daughters age as he saw all her selfies on her Insta and sent her a message asking her to chat. So if we could just leave this thread here, I'd appreciate it. Certainly don't need to hear anymore of your opinion thanks.

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Rude. I wasn't actually talking to you, I was talking to the person who thought they'd send me a snotty reply (and gave bad advice) when actually it's pretty clear they have no legal knowledge about the CPS' definition of grooming. If you've got what you need from the thread, feel free to leave it.