15 year old lounging in bed all day evenings/weekends

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Hi there - I’ve just got frustrated with my 15 year old DD that at 4.30pm she’s still in her PJs and has done nothing but lounge in bed and watch stuff on her IPad. It seems to be all she does, comes home from school and gets into bed and watches the iPad. She says they haven’t got much homework at the moment so isn’t behind in that and to be fair she’s had good marks on her year 10 exams. Am I being too harsh on her? It’s not something I would ever have been allowed to do at her age but I know life is different now. I want her to be more proactive, to do some exercise, maybe help around the house. But when I try and suggest that we end up rowing.

What are other teens getting up to at weekends?

That sounds about right for a 15 year old.

I'm 45 and am still in my PJs and on my bed reading Mumsnet. At this age they are going through big hormonal and growth changes so they do need to sleep a lot more than adults and younger children.

Mines is doing exactly the same! Although reading.

If she works hard at school, she should be allowed to rest how she likes after school/the weekend.

If you want to do something with her, ask her to pick a restaurant she likes the food then find the recipe online and make it together at home.

I'm 38 and often stay in my pyjamas at the weekend scrolling my phone and watching tv.

I've a 15 year old and that's what they do , alot of teenagers are like this

At the weekend my DS15 gets up at 1pm, stays in his onesie until about 4pm. Gets dressed in time to have dinner and then stays up late playing online computer games with his friend. Rinse and repeat every Saturday and Sunday!

Mine are the same and they are older teenagers. The weekend is their time to relax . I'm sometimes still in my pj's at this time at the weekend.

That's what they do!

Yep, my 15 year old does the same!

I cam sometimes get her out for a walk/trip to the shops though so that’s something

I was like this in the 80s if that helps - I think it's just typical teenage behaviour.

Edit: I'm pretty much still like this. 😀

My 15yo DD is the same 🙄

Mine was always out with her friends at 15

Mine is the same - I don't mind so much at weekends and in short school holidays, but dreading the (long) summer holidays as she gets worse and worse until she's almost nocturnal. Will let her have a month or so after GCSEs and then clamp down a bit.

I remember the same from many years ago, but lots seem more reclusive now.

I remember my mum complaining to me/ about me 11 years ago when I was 14 for just wanting to stay in bed all day watching my iPad/ being on my phone.

Honestly think what is the alternative, I know mine was either house work that was always cleaning up after my brother/ parents or watching their tv programs in the living room with them of which I didn't want to do either.

Also think how socially draining being 14 is, just some alone time not having to speak/ listen to anyone. I know as adults we crave it and complain we never get enough alone time.

I never understand why this bothers people. What harm is she causing anyone? I used to always be like this in my free time after school ect because it was my free time and I wanted to spend it winding down.

Honestly think what is the alternative, I know mine was either house work that was always cleaning up after my brother/ parents or watching their tv programs in the living room with them of which I didn't want to do either.

What's the alternative?

Mine got the train into town most Saturdays with friends, wandered round the shops and went for lunch. On Sundays they either went swimming or sometimes to the cinema but those needed a lift from a parent (we all did our share). Even during the week after tea they would meet up - down at the skate park or beach in summer and usually someone's house in the winter.

It's a sad situation when the only alternative you can imagine is clearing up or watching TV

@catsonahottinroof

I remember the same from many years ago, but lots seem more reclusive now.

My eldest is only 20 now! I do think you are right though, from what I read on here there are many teens who don't do anything but go to school.

It's part of the job description of being that age. It's important for them both physically and psychologically.

Nothing wrong with a pj day!

I’ll go against the grain. Mine are like that about half the time, but then we arrange to do stuff as a family - a visit to the beach, or into town with pizza on the way home. We try to do something like that each weekend. Then they’ll usually arrange to do similar with friends too. So plenty of relaxation, but some activities too. But I find if I don’t jumpstart it with a family activity then they just chill.

I’ve got an 11 and 14 yo and it’s a mixture of both. They don’t tend to surface until 1-2pm but then they’re washed and dressed and out with their mates all afternoon and evening. If she’s working hard all week at school op then just let her spend her downtime doing what she likes to do.

Sounds typical. Leave her be.

Same. (I've actually got trackie bottoms on because I had to pop to the shop) but I went back to bed after that.
Yes, I have lie ins and relax on the weekends, what's wrong with that?

@pooktline lots of parents aren't willing to fund this lifestyle, mine certainly weren't.

Also OP idea of proactivity is helping around the house, I can imaging this is causing arguments.