15 year old lounging in bed all day evenings/weekends

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Hi there - I’ve just got frustrated with my 15 year old DD that at 4.30pm she’s still in her PJs and has done nothing but lounge in bed and watch stuff on her IPad. It seems to be all she does, comes home from school and gets into bed and watches the iPad. She says they haven’t got much homework at the moment so isn’t behind in that and to be fair she’s had good marks on her year 10 exams. Am I being too harsh on her? It’s not something I would ever have been allowed to do at her age but I know life is different now. I want her to be more proactive, to do some exercise, maybe help around the house. But when I try and suggest that we end up rowing.

What are other teens getting up to at weekends?

Completely disagree @paddingtonstares, I actively encourage her to go out but she struggles with this. She needs time to process the idea before making plans but rarely does this in time to arrange a day out. She is allowed to do most things but chooses not to. I don’t think the pandemic has helped, they’ve have missed out of a lot of opportunities to try new things and have got a bit nervous about doing things and seeing people.

I have a 15 year old DS and a 16 year old DD. 15 year old is a sloth and very similar. 16 year old is the opposite and she goes to the gym most days, meets up with friends, went to London and Paris by herself at Easter, got a boyfriend, studying hard for GCSEs.

I am also in a koala onesie atm which I have worn all day. In my defence I am doing chemotherapy. 😂My concern for the 15 year old is I think he is anxious like that but if they are chilled and seem happy would leave it. We do take 15 year old out on family things when we can but difficult with my chemo atm. He is asd.

I also disagree with Paddington It was being forced to stay in during lockdown which led to DS being a sloth due to high anxiety and he also became mute and there was no help available from anyone for kids even if suicidal. Before that he went out happily, we had to organise as he is asd. But no school and no going out really affected him. Now there is no money to help them and the schools are on 80% staff so all kids with SN have had TAs etc taken from them. I feel really sorry for the teenagers of this generation who struggled with lockdown and the shambles that GCSEs etc have been. DD has had three sets of mocks and real things, all of which could have been real ones so it has been non stop pressure and she now has panic attacks. Its really no wonder some kids need to stay in bed.

Shes probably doing her socialising online cos you know, millennials ... probably her friends all online in pjs too- whats she supposed to do? Go out ny herself? It's annoying but thats what they do now
am also, as PP, in pjs immediately where possible. So i cant judge.
is its because shes "underfoot"? Or not helping with chores and youre busy? Cos thats what usef to do my DMs head in. If i sat ( after school all day, seeing friends or working at the supermarket) and painted my nails- oh shed flip! "Id LOVE to have time to paint my nails!?"

Eh I wouldn’t care. Sundays my DD would do the same as she really didn’t have any close friends to hang out with. Saturdays usually was sports or just running errands with me, if not she was up in her room. And She turned out alright. 🙂

Sounds normal.

I was the same from age 12... I'm 42 now.. still haven't got any more active at weekends, sod that.