I don't like the way my son talks

[Hamjamwich]

He's copying this from somewhere ? Talking in a ridiculous accent. Sounds like :
Man, innit, nah,
If he says "actually", he pronounces it "actulee"
His friends and family don't talk like this.
I keep correcting his speech but it continues and is driving me crazy. It sounds horrible. Only place I guess he could be copying it from could be You Tube?

I reckon just grit your teeth and don't react. Sadly, he is unlikely to stop because his mum doesn't like it. In fact, that might even encourage him.

My 17yo does it as well. I find it adorable, much to his annoyance

Honestly, grin and bear it OP, he will grow out of it.

Does it really matter? All teens have their own type of language.

It's "street" and quite funny I would laugh at mine if they did this. It's their attempt to fit in. Fine out of earshot but not okay home

He'll grow out of it, don't worry!

My son does exactly this @Hamjamwich.
I've taken to ignoring it or doing it too when I talk to him you should see his face 😂I might take up talking the same way in front of his friends 😂

But why? I'm very ordinary but I speak properly. None of his friends do this

No clue as to why and we live in rural Norfolk so definitely no one speaks that way but we just smile I'm sure they will all grow out of it

Try, really try, to speak the same way when he’s around.
That will stop him!

Are you sure none of his friends do it? I bet they do!

@Bonheurdupasse exactly what I do he looks like he wants the ground to swallow him up when I speak the same

Just keep talking to him as you usually would, he will come round eventually (and probably knows how to talk properly when it is needed).
We have taken to talking to our cat using teen speak 🤪🤪🤪🤪

Try, really try, to speak the same way when he’s around. That will stop him

Yes I feel the only thing even slightly likely to work is this.

Even better when he is with his friends.

Hey DS do yous wan summ coffee? brap brap

He’ll grow up and realise he sounds a twonk

It's v annoying and not helped by the fact that KFC ads and the like have adopted it

We live 160 miles away from London !
I do wonder if You Tube could be an issue ?

I bought him a birthday card which said “It’s my Birthday innit?” on the front. Stopped it dead!

OP we don't live anywhere near London either. It's teenage culture, it comes from their music, YouTube, social media, Netflix, and each other. Teenagers have always gone in for tribal language and stylised (ridiculous) behaviour, it's a normal developmental stage and it will pass.

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I bought him a birthday card which said “It’s my Birthday innit?” on the front. Stopped it dead!

Genius 🤣

I bet his mates do talk like that doe, innit.

Just ignore it, or add a few street slang words in yourself - leng, peng, styll, fam, Main G, big up.

It's almost certainly coming from places like YouTube/tiktok etc. But it's very normal. I remember my parents trying to correct my speech as a teen. Ignore it. He'll grow out of it. Reminds me of Kevin and Perry when they try to go full Mad-chestaaaarrrrrr😁

@Hamjamwich

We live 160 miles away from London ! I do wonder if You Tube could be an issue ?

You sound like you think he's doing it accidentally and so if you can just find and eliminate the source it'll stop. He's not, he's doing it on purpose and the fact it annoys you is not just not a deterrent, it's part of the point - he doesn't want to do things his mum approves of!

You don't say how old your son is but what you describe is not unusual, I can remember it with mine years ago, and some of his friends. Try to ignore it, he'll outgrow it and will speak properly when he needs to. There's nothing worse than a mother correcting her child's speech, my mother used to do that with me (what's more she had no idea, her pronunciation of vowels was terrible).

Also his friends probably do it when they're not talking to their mate's mum (you) - and he probably doesn't do it when he talks to their parents either!

It’s Tic Tock, I’m sure. So cringey. He’ll look back one day and feel like a dick. For now all you can do is ignore or imitate.