My 17 year old is doing A levels. When I was her age, everyone, including me, had a part time job. She has half-heartedly applied for a handful of positions but there has always been something 'wrong' with the job - she doesn't want to work there, it's too many hours, too early, too late.
Now, she has been offered an interview with one of the better companies and she is refusing to go. I helped her a lot with her application and her CV and I feel as if my efforts have been thrown back in my face.
I wouldn't mind if she were really studious but, most of the time I see her, she is on her phone or listening to music, not studying so she does have time, which she claims not to have.
I think a job would ground her. At the moment, she is very chaotic and disorganised. Also, she has expensive tastes. She wouldn't use own brand shampoo, for example, she has to have the premium brands costing £6+ and she gets through one bottle a week. She also has me buying her make-up and giving her money when she meets up with friends. She likes buying new clothes as well.
I have told her all of this is stopping and Bank of Mum is firmly closed as is Mum's taxi (I don't think she has ever hopped on a bus or walked more than 5 mins up the road).
She is saying I can't make her get a job, which is true, and that many of her friends don't have one and their parents just give them money.
Any advice?