Dd and her appalling dress sense!

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I have a lovely bubbly 15yo dd.
She’s had her body issues over the years (12/13yo) as was always bigger and taller than her peers, but now somehow seems fine about herself. She’s very large chested and hipped with a small waist and big bum, so probably quite fashionable, but is also frankly a bit overweight but doesn’t care enough atm to reduce the sugar.
I’m very happy that she’s happy with her body. I was the same shape and very self conscious and have done everything I could to ensure she is confident in herself.

However… I’m finding it difficult to not comment negatively on her dress sense as it’s SO revealing. She’s proud of her boobs, wears crop tops with spaghetti straps and tiny shorts she’s falling out of. She’s just bought a dress which manages to show off her legs, boobs AND stomach

It’s just so… tarty.
I don’t want to hurt her feelings, and she thinks she looks lovely, so I’m obviously not saying what I really think.

Any advice? Do I just shut up and wait for her to grow up?

Right, you've got a lovely 15 year old who is self-confident and enjoying life.

Two choices here: you can do what my mum did which wince inwardly, encourage positively and put your foot down occasionally.

Or you can be my friends mum, who gave money, openly criticised, compared everyone to her in a way that crippled her in so many ways and put her foot down indiscriminately.

Tread carefully, you don't get a second shot.

I have a 16yo with oppositional disorder so whatever I say will be opposed aggressively.
It took a while but by asking her what she considered day wear, formal, clubbing etc we found a way. I cannot tell a lie it did take a while, but because of the discussion she came to see that if you wander the shops in vampy club wear then there's no way to step up your look. Now I can say 'are you comfortable for dog walking?' And she'll have a look and say 'yup, I'm keeping my cardi on' or 'oops, give me 2 minutes I'm going to change my top'. They find their own way in the end once they are adults we parents have to shush. In between we do get a say, as long as we can administer our wisdom in small non-confrontational bites!

It must be so difficult as mum of a teenager. I often see teenage girls dressed really inappropriately and it makes me cringe. You definitely need to talk about what is more suitable to be wearing, however that’s easier said than done! Good luck

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