Would you leave 14 year old in hotel room

[Belledan1]

On holiday now with DS 14 at a hotel by the beach. Decides hates the beach this year! Will come out for food and arcades but being awkward. Think be happy staying in hotel room on wifi all day. Everything boring. Going to plan to go to a castle tom he used to.like them! Seriously considering not booking next year and wait until 16 and go on our own lol or just do short weekends away. Does not want to come to a 3 hour event tonight. Do you think be ok leaving in hotel room for 3 hours tonight. Secure place and he happy to be on own. Be back about 9.30.is happy stay at home on own.

Absolutely.

Unless there is a massive dripfeed about SN/illness.

I wouldn't drag a 14yo to an event they don't want to go to

If he's happpier staying in the hotel room with WiFi then leave him to it

Yeah, he'll be fine.

Of course. He is 14, not 4.

14?!? Odd to even ask!

He is very very awkward but no special needs. Right I am not asking him again to come. Will get some food and supplies before we go and leave him to it. Thanks. Quite looking forward to it without him moaning or stuck on phone!

This was me as a 14 year old lol

Yes sorry I know he is old enough just feel bad that family holiday and leaving him but his choice!!

Puts me off posting in future when you get remarks like I am odd etc.

Thanks for all the nice comments.

@Belledan1

Yes sorry I know he is old enough just feel bad that family holiday and leaving him but his choice!!

Puts me off posting in future when you get remarks like I am odd etc.

Ah this is mumsnet, you need to take the rough with the smooth. Don’t take comments like that to heart.

But yeah I’d leave him if he’ll just main the whole time.

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Absolutely fine.

Yes I should know that really what mumsnet is like. Thank Imapotato. Xx

Seems fine, it's hard having a teenager on holiday at that age.

Leave him and enjoy your holiday.

I would also leave him in a positive way, not a 'fine then, if you're going to be miserable stay here!'. It's his holiday too and it's understandable he doesn't want to be dragged round a castle with his parents. You go have a lovely time, but frame it as being a treat for him too, get some snacks/let him get a movie etc.

At 14 I'd expect him to be able to cope for a while in a hotel room.

I stayed in a caravan everyday while my parents went out. I was bored as shit as there was no Internet or more than 4 channels in 1993!

If he has WiFi and food he's onto a winner!

It's a really tricky age and it's disappointing that they don't want to do stuff with you.
We started leaving DS on his own for a bit when he was 13 and we were in NZ. He just needed chill time away from us and he'd often stay in with a bowl of pasta ( mostly self catering) whilst we went out for dinner. Saved money though !

We're in Whitby atm and his friend is coming part way through. DH and DS 15 are currently mountain biking so we have a mixture of activities for all

Thanks all. The castle is tomorrow in the day. He does seem quite interested in that at the moment. Yes I know he will cope. At home we left hima few times until 10ish. Yes ishould make it a positive really but he is mentally draining lol. Its mad isnt it as you think ahh love them small and cute again but then I was watching some little ones in hotel and non stop on the go. Says misses his xbox

I suppose as well 3 of us in one hotel room puts pressure on. Hardly see him at home. Be good to have a break.

Lol action girl. How did we manage.

I think that's the way to look at it. They are mentally draining, but all you can do is be positive and hope it runs off on them.

You get a child free night, he gets a night to himself. It's win-win.

It’s a tricky age alright! The holiday has to be very appealing to make being away from friends “worth it”. I think on balance I would make him go.

Yes he'll be fine. Presume he has a mobile?