Would you leave 14 year old in hotel room

[Belledan1]

On holiday now with DS 14 at a hotel by the beach. Decides hates the beach this year! Will come out for food and arcades but being awkward. Think be happy staying in hotel room on wifi all day. Everything boring. Going to plan to go to a castle tom he used to.like them! Seriously considering not booking next year and wait until 16 and go on our own lol or just do short weekends away. Does not want to come to a 3 hour event tonight. Do you think be ok leaving in hotel room for 3 hours tonight. Secure place and he happy to be on own. Be back about 9.30.is happy stay at home on own.

'Why are you disbelieving? '

Because normally on Mumsnet the 'what if there is a fire' post is in the first 5 responses. It really took a while this time!

Yes it did work out thanks. Dont take much for me to get tipsy so I am drunk in charge of a teenager now . Bad mother. . Husband is here though. Back in room now and having Def be looking at different holiday next year. Thanks all.

@spongedog A teenager without a babysitter is perhaps even more vulnerable.

Why would a teenager have a babysitter?

Things really have changed over the last few years.

The only things that have changed is that helicopter parents are on the rise and their critical thinking has regressed and parenting skills have regressed.

A teenager without a babysitter is perhaps even more vulnerable. You are in that situation relying that a teenager hears the alarm, understands the alarm, acts on the alarm.

I would expect a 14 year old without additional needs to know what to do if a fire alarm goes off.

I do like the idea of getting a job as a teenage babysitter though, just for very rare emergencies like reminding them to evacuate if their room is on fire, that'd be easy money!

I would happily leave him; he might be more in the mood for company tomorrow if he has some time out tonight. Do you have a phone so he can contact you if there's a problem? As you're in a hotel, in a real emergency (unlikely) there would be staff to hand; it's not like you're in the middle of nowhere.

Mid teens is about the age we had to rethink our holidays. Let the kids have real input into destination and duration. A three day city break to a cool destination holds more appeal to a teen than a week in a remote luxury villa / cottage. Or somewhere they can have a bit of independence eg a central Airbnb in a town or resort where they can take themselves off to look in shops or buy an ice cream. Booked activities (eg a canoeing expedition) might also be more appealing than just mooching and dining.

A teenager without a babysitter is perhaps even more vulnerable.

I think the poster was saying that a teenager who would of course not have a babysitter, would be more vulnerable in her scenario, not that she was recommending babysitters for teenagers!

Even though we did not leave him except when we went to the bar we did have a discussion re fire alarms and he said he would go to the emergency exit and follow others. The castle does not have great reviews and its wet here so we think him and DH going to watch black widow in a big local complex not too far away and I will go shopping. Yes I think we might do city break next year or perhaps say Brighton and can go to london for the day. Def be his own hotel room or self catering.