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[Akal212]

My just gone 18 year old has decided to start doing it......🤬 advice

Well at 18 she's an adult. You may not like it, but the only thing you can do is remind her to not give personal details out or meet anyone from there

Talk to her about the impact it may have on her life, not just now but in the future but as she is 18 there is not much you can do. :(

@Arghlife

Well at 18 she's an adult. You may not like it, but the only thing you can do is remind her to not give personal details out or meet anyone from there

It’s f@@@@ filthy

I would be reminding her that what she posts online as an 18 year old will probably still be there for decades to come. Does she really want future employers/children etc to find it?

There's nothing you can do exactly but please make sure she fully understands ANYONE can access what she puts up. I just read a few days ago about a woman who turned 18 and started OF and her godfather subscribed using a fake username. She found out as he was telling her dad's friends at a bbq/party or something and her brother overheard him and told his dad and sister. The godfather wouldn't tell her his username/Fakenham or whatever so she couldn't block him from seeing her content and ended up closing it down after realising how she felt with a man she knew accessing her content like that.

Does she live with you?

Block the WiFi to her devices. Not in my house.

I agree with PPs. Make sure she knows anyone could subscribe and anyone could use it against her in the future etc.

If she's comfortable with that there's not much you can do.

Pays for her own phone data etc

It’s filthy

Tread very gently.

It's a shock I know. But why is she doing this? Does she realise what it involves? It's not just photos and videos, she'll have to engage with her subscribers via messages etc. To keep them interested and they'll push it and ask for all manner of extras.

Rather than push her away with being heavy handed, get involved. Help her set her boundaries. What she's willing to do and what she's not. Create an open dialogue (sounds like you have one already and we'll done you) whereby she can talk to you about this as it progresses.

@Akal212

Pays for her own phone data etc

It will cost her a lot more to do it over data and be a lot more difficult. It would be sensible to remove her from WiFi or change the password. I wouldn't enable her.

Saying it's filthy repeatedly isn't going to help, sorry. You can't stop her doing it. Even if you block the wifi, she can take photos and upload using her data or somewhere else that there's wifi.

It's her choice. I wouldn't like it either. The only thing you can do is discourage her from doing it. I would ask her why she's doing it. If it's for money, help her find a job or I would even give her money on a set basis every month to stop her doing this. Make sure she knows that these photos/videos will be our there forever and anyone can see them now and in the future: friends, partners, old school friends, future employees etc.

Future colleagues I meant.

How can I remove her from the WiFi etc

You'll have to change the password and not tell her it.

But I'd be worried this will push her to move out and do it on her own when her data runs out which if she's good at it she'll easily be able to afford to do. She could also get an unlimited data deal fairly cheaply.

You can either change the password or go in to the router settings on your phone. I usually Google it to check as I am not great with WiFi. But I have done this when the DC need it.

Why does she feel this is her only/the best option?

Do you know what type of content she plans on doing or are you assuming it's naked shots or worse porn.

@wedswench

You'll have to change the password and not tell her it.

But I'd be worried this will push her to move out and do it on her own when her data runs out which if she's good at it she'll easily be able to afford to do. She could also get an unlimited data deal fairly cheaply.

If you stop it early enough, she may struggle and I wouldn't allow it in my home. Teenagers don't follow rules, but you don't have to make it easy either.

@wedswench

Why does she feel this is her only/the best option?

I have absolutely no clue she’s just told me it’s good money. I couldn’t care less if it was just underwear pictures etc but when she’s showing EVERYTHING it gets worrying

It was her friend that alerted us to this I had a look on the website made an account and subscribe to screen shot what was on there so she couldn’t deny it there’s videos of her s££££ c£££ I’ve already confronted her about this and she’s just acted like it’s normal and the money’s good etc

I would hit the roof OP
Do you subsidise her life in any other way? Because I would be stopping that too.
Change WiFi password

Also I would ask her to map out her 10 year life plan, jobs, homes, families, marriage and friendships, and block out everything that OF would affect.

To be honest I would consider taking her bedroom door off the frame so she can't film in the house.

Sounds extreme but she needs help and boundaries

Yes but her age gives her quite a lot of power. She could just leave and do her own thing.

I think you need to be cleverer.

We had this with my step daughter. She got in to webcam (her mum got her in to it as she did it - appalling role model). It really destroyed her mental health for that period of time. When we found out I managed to push her in the direction of promo work which eventually led to "proper" modelling. More on the glamour side of things than I'd have liked but much better than flogging herself online.

I think you need to understand what she's planning to do exactly. If she's very beautiful she could make money on onlyfans without doing anything naked... but she'll still get the pervy messages and requests so she needs to be prepared for that.

I don't understand what you mean by the S£££ c£££ I take it you mean full nude?

I'd be very, very concerned. I really feel for you. You think you know everything when ur 18 and really u know absolutely NOTHING about life.

What i wld worry about is that it's a bit of a slippery slope. She starts off doing underwear shots or semi nude risky pics and then it turns in to naked pics and eventually porn. It's a monthly subscription I think so folk might subscribe and then go elsewhere for someone "showing more". She feels she needs to do more to maintain the subscribers, it's very sad.