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[Akal212]

My just gone 18 year old has decided to start doing it......🤬 advice

I feel for you OP. I’d be so so upset.

Can you see if she’d watch the Netflix docs ‘Hot Girls’ and ‘Hot Girls Wanted’? They explore the emotional cost of online sex work. Might make her think?

I was going to suggest those Netflix documentaries - there’s a brilliant scene at a party where the “friends” realise the girl is in porn. Uncomfortable viewing.

[quote Wide]@wedswench why should the OP have that filth going on under her roof bringing shame and embarrassment might make her think twice about doing it if she's threatened with it. Can't stand the tip toeing approach of lets support chosen bad behaviour, you choose to do drugs or suck someone's cock in photos, under your own roof love not mine[/quote]
I feel really sorry for your kids. That's a pretty grim attitude.

@candylebonbon no its grim that she is doing that, don't feel sorry for my kids you know absolutely nothing about me, my child would certainly not be posting cock sucking photos for £40 and doing it under my roof

[quote Wide]@candylebonbon no its grim that she is doing that, don't feel sorry for my kids you know absolutely nothing about me, my child would certainly not be posting cock sucking photos for £40 and doing it under my roof[/quote]
100% agree

@Akal212 thankyou, I would never kick out my children and I am so sensitive I love them so much but it is not acceptable or respectful to themselves or to the family. I don't know what the best solution would be but it wouldn't be a soft conversation

Op - if you agree with the sentiment below then can I ask have you always operated like that?

If so can I suggest perhaps the approach needs some tweaking? Given the situation you're in. Maybe it's not working.

Maybe kick her out sounded harsh, I wouldn't see my child on the streets so I will rephrase it to "whilst you are living under my roof, such vulgar activities will not be taking place in this house" and I would lay it on thick of the consequences of how badly it could come back on her in the future, literally anybody could see this, neighbours, old teachers, future bosses, it is embarrassing all round and I feel for the Op as I'd be in turmoil no matter if she's 18 and can make her own choices it is the wrong choice

@Wide

Maybe kick her out sounded harsh, I wouldn't see my child on the streets so I will rephrase it to "whilst you are living under my roof, such vulgar activities will not be taking place in this house" and I would lay it on thick of the consequences of how badly it could come back on her in the future, literally anybody could see this, neighbours, old teachers, future bosses, it is embarrassing all round and I feel for the Op as I'd be in turmoil no matter if she's 18 and can make her own choices it is the wrong choice

Agreed

ugh this is a bloody difficult one - some women enjoy and feel empowered by this sort of shite - everyone has different opinions - dd19 finds it gross and envisages nasty old men w&&king over exploited girls but dd15 has a matter of fact view about it - it is easy money for a lot of women whatever we appalled Mums feel about it - it is a heinous feature of modern life - personally I think it is horrendous - I would have only wanted to exhibit my body to the one I loved at that age but everything is much more ‘out there’ now - it’s so tough for you OP but expressing disgust and anger will not have the desired effect - just be there for her - bloody men - they are frigging disgusting :/

She won't be making a shitload of money out of it, then the novelty will wear off, and then the poor woman will realise a lot of other career options are closed to her because of pornographic photographs circulating online.

She actually won't make that much money - the top 10% of creators make something like 80% of all the money on OF. Plus, the novelty will be that she's new and "barely legal" (not envy), she's also straight away gone to explicit porn! So much of OF is teasing/glamour shots, once you do porn you're stuck doing porn, there's nothing more to reveal. Belle Delphine is a great example of this, your daughter might understand if you go at it from a business POV? Honestly she would make better money in the long term being a non nude streamer on Twitch.

To even have people interested in paying for your content she must have been using other platforms like twitter or reddit to gain fans. It's really hard work, she would have to constantly promo herself and her social media, make new content to keep fans interested, talk to disgusting men and pretend to like them, emotionally cope with only being seen as a sex object, it's seriously not economical when you work out how much physical and emotional labour it takes to earn £1.

Here are some good posts from others warning against OF, maybe you could sit down with her and read then together or send them to her (or get her friend to send them to her?):

www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/luhtnp/if_youre_thinking_about_making_an_onlyfans/

www.reddit.com/r/Vent/comments/mqqrht/onlyfans_might_ruin_your_future/

www.reddit.com/r/confessions/comments/lluxrt/i_frequently_wish_i_never_did_onlyfans_it_has/

It is a porn site. Anything you post on the internet is not private any more. Think of the person who filmed Helen Skelton on a beach in France sunbathing topless, which years later appears on the internet. So any content on the site could be viewed by the friends of any children your DD has in later life.

Future boyfriends may well expect her to do things sexually which your DD is uncomfortable with, justifying her being on Only Fans as a reason.

She's 18 and an adult. I can see from some of your posts on here that you've dabbled in illegal drugs in your life... so just consider this her dabbling (but hers is legal - unlike drugs). Don't be too hard on her, she'll have enough of that on her OF😉

@HolyMacaroni1

She's 18 and an adult. I can see from some of your posts on here that you've dabbled in illegal drugs in your life... so just consider this her dabbling (but hers is legal - unlike drugs). Don't be too hard on her, she'll have enough of that on her OF😉

Honestly I’d rather her do lsd then do porn More benefits to it 😀

A year or so ago we received a message from a friend saying they’d seen another mutual friend in some porn online. None of us knew about it and it’s not really our business but she was mortified when she found out that a lot of people in our friendship group knew about it (I didn’t tell anyone). She was young and she said she doesn’t regret it exactly but also wishes it would never resurface. At 18 they think they know it all and can’t quite comprehend how they might feel in the future when they are most likely going to be a completely different person to who they are now.

@CeceJoyce

A year or so ago we received a message from a friend saying they’d seen another mutual friend in some porn online. None of us knew about it and it’s not really our business but she was mortified when she found out that a lot of people in our friendship group knew about it (I didn’t tell anyone). She was young and she said she doesn’t regret it exactly but also wishes it would never resurface. At 18 they think they know it all and can’t quite comprehend how they might feel in the future when they are most likely going to be a completely different person to who they are now.

It’s horrid

@RaindropsOnRosie

Good for her, I hope she stays safe using it and knows her boundaries. Perhaps you could make sure she's doing this safely, rather than getting mad at her. She'll continue whether you like it or not, rightly so.

Ffs

It’s this kind of stupid talk that gets girls into this kind of shit!

Mum up and act like real parents.

In which world wools you encourage your child to have sex online with anyone being able to watch?! Including her friends, parents, family members

I’d go extreme and take her to the dirtiest red light areas out there and show her what her future could look like as shes prostituting herself

Prostitution is still people paying you for sex - online or offline

I would focus on alternatives. What are her dreams, what does she love, where does she want to be in 5 years, and help her with all that.