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Teens- let them sleep as late as they like or wake them up at a certain time?

75 replies

UhtredRagnarson · 29/05/2021 10:57

They’ve nothing planned, no sports or activities to go to, no homework etc. If I wake them they still just stay in their rooms gaming so I don’t see them anyway.

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schofieldsunderpants · 29/05/2021 11:05

Nothing planned - don't wake them up

Strugglingtodomybest · 29/05/2021 11:08

I don't wake them up, my mum used to wake me up and I hated it. I figure, if they're asleep, it's because they need it.

I think it's quite controlling to make the decision for someone else that they need to wake up.

PleaseReferToMeAsBritneySpears · 29/05/2021 11:08

Let them sleep

CMOTDibbler · 29/05/2021 11:16

If theres nothing planned, I let ds sleep. This morning I've been swimming, dh is still out cycling and ds is still asleep. Tomorrow we have things to do, so he'll get turfed out of bed much earlier

apricotdreams · 29/05/2021 11:18

I can remember my mum coming in my room and throwing open the curtains with a big loud ITS MORRRRNIIING
I swore I would never do that and I don't. My teens sleep all morning and I leave them to it. Its natural for teens

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UhtredRagnarson · 29/05/2021 11:44

Thanks everyone. One is up. One is not. I’ll leave them to their own devices.

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HollowTalk · 29/05/2021 11:51

I found the smell of cooking would get my two downstairs.

HoldontoOneMoreDay · 29/05/2021 11:51

I don't wake mine up when there's nothing planned, flip side of that is I expect him to get up and not be too much of a monster when we do have plans. That works quite well. (And not a stealth boast because it's pretty much the only thing that's going well in teen-land!)

Sparklingbrook · 29/05/2021 11:53

Yes, let them sleep. DS2 is yet to surface here, but he hasn't any plans and he works full time all week.

Oh to be a teenager again. Grin I've been up since seven and got loads done.

ThisAintNoPartyThisAintNoDisco · 29/05/2021 11:54

I let mine sleep.

My mother used to ‘accidentally’ bang the vacuum cleaner against the bedroom door 🙄

koolaid · 29/05/2021 11:55

Why would you wake them? Enjoy the peace! One of the nice things about having teens is they don't wake you at 6am on a weekend like toddlers!

yeOldeTrout · 29/05/2021 11:56

omg, don't wake the dragons (!!)
You've earned quiet mornings after having had small children for yrs

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UhtredRagnarson · 29/05/2021 11:58

I have a dog so I’m still up at 6am 😭 maybe that’s what my problem is. I’m jealous of these layabouts getting to stay in bed! Grin

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BobFlemingHere · 29/05/2021 11:58

When it gets to 2pm, I can't stop myself going in. 🙈

I think all day in he didn't bad for their mental health. Once in a while is ok, but everyday - no. Not good imho.

BobFlemingHere · 29/05/2021 11:59

*I think all day in bed is bad for their mental health

Diggingaholeformyself · 29/05/2021 12:04

I've been awake since 6.30 but haven't seen my 16 year old yet and haven't heard him moving either. I'll leave him because he's tired.

Tomorrow however he'll be getting up because we've made plans to go out as a family, doesn't happen very often!

Hellvelyn · 29/05/2021 12:13

DD16 still in bed and probably sleeping. I'm not going anywhere the teenage morning beast! She finished school yesterday after a horrible y10 and y11 (thanks covid) After months of cajoling her out of bed in the morning and removing tech overnight I'm just leaving her to it. Poor kid deserves to do what she likes for a while.

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UhtredRagnarson · 29/05/2021 12:20

What do you do in the summer? Do they get to lie in all summer as late as they like?

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Pinuporc · 29/05/2021 12:21

I dont wake mine up. DH is often appalled at how late they sleep but if theyve got nothing planned, they would likely be lounging about on their phone...which is generally no healthier or productive than being asleep!!

FreezerBird · 29/05/2021 12:26

I don't go in if we've nothing planned but I think he's actually awake earlier than I think and on his phone (phone downstairs on school nights but he's done now until September).

I don't make any special effort to be quiet though. He can sleep in but I'm not stopping his sister do her thing, for example.

Squeejit · 29/05/2021 12:28

Start cooking bacon. They’ll soon emerge...

Sparklingbrook · 29/05/2021 12:32

@UhtredRagnarson

What do you do in the summer? Do they get to lie in all summer as late as they like?
Yes. When they were at school I didn't get them up in the summer holidays unless they needed to be up. I could get in from work at 2pm and they'd still be asleep...
WeAllHaveWings · 29/05/2021 12:58

Only on a Sunday morning when there is school the next day, if he doesn't get up before 10ish he doesn't sleep on a Sunday night until 2-3am and is shattered on a Monday morning. He usually sets his alarm to get himself up, but if he drifts back off he appreciates being woken because he hates restless Sunday nights.

joystir59 · 29/05/2021 13:31

How old is he? If he is 16 I'd leave him to his own devices.

Spring2021 · 29/05/2021 13:40

I have one teen who wakes up early on a weekend and another who wakes up late.

The latter has just finished year 11. I usually let her sleep so long and wake her up about 10.30-11 on Sunday or she can’t sleep Sunday night which has a knock on effect all week on a school week.

I am dreading the summer as we are both still working from home with her lying in bed everyday, stinky untidy bedroom, her not getting dressed unless she is meeting pals and her bad moods, face like thunder and bothering the dog when she does wake up doing nothing to help in the house house until September.