Teens- let them sleep as late as they like or wake them up at a certain time?

[UhtredRagnarson]

They’ve nothing planned, no sports or activities to go to, no homework etc. If I wake them they still just stay in their rooms gaming so I don’t see them anyway.

@joystir59

How old is he? If he is 16 I'd leave him to his own devices.

Older boy almost 16. Younger is 12.

Mine is still asleep. We are off out at 5 so will wake her by 4 if she is still not up.

@Squeejit

Start cooking bacon. They’ll soon emerge...

Ha this definitely works in our house !

My children are weirdos who don’t like bacon. I’m sure they’re not mine.

I don't wake Ds1 up but refuse to creep about after about 9am, as he has night owl tendencies. Younger teen gets hoofed out at 8am as no one gets to sleep at a reasonable hour if he does lie in.

Mines up at 4am numerous times a week to swim train.

This morning he woke up at 9.45am and was in a raging mood.

Why you ask? Well because apparently he doesn't like sleeping past 9am

(He's autistic son often has weird rules in his head 🤣)

I wake 16yo ds before 9am because he's asked me to. He says he feels tired if he sleeps too long. Actually this morning I woke him at 7:30 and asked him to take the dog out because I couldn't be bothered - we're in a third floor flat with no garden so it's a bit of a pain in the morning

Agree let them sleep, there’s been studies done proving teenagers need more sleep than children 7-12 and adults. Their brains grow rapidly at that age (not size wise!) and you process and adjust to situations and life better if you can get the sleep you need.

DS gets annoyed if I let him sleep too long, I do remind him he has an alarm...

JustDanceAddict

DS gets annoyed if I let him sleep too long

Ha, ha, ha, ha. Won't he make a fine partner for someone someday.

Mine is veggie so I have to make pancakes instead of bacon. I let him sleep as long as he wants the first couple of days of the holiday. Otherwise I go and open curtains if it is past 10 ish. He finds it hard to get to sleep at night.

I have a fairly relaxed 'midday' rule. If DC16 not up by then they are fair game in terms of being disturbed by siblings/ me banging the hoover against the door, DH singing etc etc. It seems to work fine.

I fear mine aren’t proper teenagers. DS14 never sleeps beyond 8ish and is always out of bed by 9 (so often before me at the weekend). DD16 rarely sleeps beyond 9 but will sometimes stay in bed until lunchtime. My only rule re getting up is that that aren’t allowed to have lunch unless dressed (or ill). But I suspect them not sleeping in is related to when they go to bed. DS usually turns his light out by 9.45 and DD by 10.15. They stay up a bit later if eg watching a film or occasionally DD is out until 10ish but they just aren’t interested in being up late normally whereas DD says there’s frequently lots of WhatsApp chat from her classmates after midnight.

But I don’t try to keep particularly quiet after 9ish - though probably wouldn’t vacuum right outside their door if they were still asleep.

I just leave mine be. Some weekends they are up earlier than others. They've got years and years ahead of them of waking up to the dreaded alarm, so l am ok with letting them sleep.

let them sleep and enjoy the peace.
as soon as mine are awake they squabble and fight over anything starting with who is to use the toaster first for their breakfast.

Mine also rarely sleeps in. So if he does it's because he needs it. Weekdays he's up at 4-5am for swim training and some nights not home again from training until 9.30pm so if come Friday he decides to stay up until 11 I would expect him to sleep until 9/10am.

It's him that gets annoyed if he's awake after 9am! I just tell him he wouldn't be awake that late if he didn't need the sleep.

I let mine sleep as long as she likes on days when she can. She has enough early mornings with school and sports on Saturday.

My teen said he smelt porridge the other morning so didn't get up ...loi.. it was a school day so i got him up anyway.

My DS has adhd takes melatonin and still can't sleep in.. He goes on the x box in the morning and most his friends are asleep. it means we get more done in the morning.

Teens need more sleep. They have their whole damn lives to have early starts for work, let them enjoy this time.

I leave mine to sleep until they want to wake up if we have nothing planned. My 13 yo was horrified this morning that he had to be up by 11am because we were going out at midday

Mine is still asleep. We are off out at 5 so will wake her by 4 if she is still not up

I think this isn't great TBH, almost living "opposite shifts". Unless you will have a nice family dinner when you get back and all stay up till 1am. I expect to see mine downstairs before midday and like PP no breakfast after 11am and no lunch in pyjamas

Let youngest (18) wake naturally. Crap year, exams finished (worked really hard), can’t meet up with anyone until he’s jabbed so his life is late night gaming for now.
Works for us all.

I wake dd up. She has a bit of a lie in but I’m not letting her stay in bed all day.

I never stayed in bed as a teen, was always up early. My brother would stay in bed all day, by the time he reached 18 his mental health was awful, he was unable to get up for work, couldn’t hold down a job and looked pale and ill.

A lie in in our house is 8.30/9am

My mum used to get us all up at 6.30am 7 days a week so we didnt "waste the day". I hated it & always said I'd never do this with my kids.

Now my kids are all naturally early riders (but one is only an almost teen and the others a couple of years younger so that might change) however I love a lie in when I can get it.

Mine is 12 so not quite teen. I only wake him if he needs to be up- which to be fair is most mornings so he doesn't get to sleep in very often! I figure if he's asleep it's because he needs it. The rest of us don't creep around quietly or anything but we don't make a point of trying to wake him.