I have namechanged.
I have just had a phone call from my dh who has been phoned by the headmaster.
My teenage sixthformer dd and a friend have been accused of making another girls life hell. She handed a note in today from my dd and her friend and it said basically 'you are dead this evening, bitch'.
I am shocked and horrified.
I know that there are problems in the class - that there are two distinct groups of girls and my dd is in the 'I'm so popular and so cool it hurts' group. I have talked to her and her friends having heard them talk and bitch about the other girls and 'how much they hate them'. I was shocked at the depth of nastiness and deep feeling and told them in no uncertain terms that 'there for the grace of god go I' and that they should be kinder and if they cannot bear the other girls they should just bloody well leave them alone.
I have heard my dd gossiping on the phone about this and talked to her afterwards - her supercilious attitude (she has been offered a cleaning job for pocket money by a neighbour and turned it down because she is too good to be anybodies cleaner; she sneered at my new pjs because they came from matalan) is unbearable and she and her friends think that they are just the bees knees.
What do I do? I will have to talk to her, obviously, but holy cow. I cannot beleive a child of mine is behaving like this. I am ashamed and angry.
The headmaster said he may well take it further (police,) and if it was my child being bullied I would be all for it. Perhaps she needs a short sharp shock.
She is too old for a bloody good hiding or stopping pocket money (can do this but will not hurt as has money in bank).
I can take away her mobile or laptop but it all seems so petty.
I want to shake her till her teeth rattle to make her see sense.
Reading the last comment makes me think that I sound like an evil cruel corporal punishment (thus learned behaviour) mother. NOt at all. Am just at complete loss.
Ideas please.