Leaving 17yo overnight

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Am just interested in views on this - at what age did you start leaving your teens overnight? We might get a little weekend break sometime in the summer and we were thinking of leaving 17 year old daughter home alone. She is completely happy and comfortable to be left. Sensible. Can cook for herself etc. We would only be a couple of hours away at most and her grandma is only 20 mins away in case of emergency. Would you leave her? She will only just be 17.

At 16 I was looking after 3 children mostly alone for 6 weeks whilst my dad had a heart transplant.

I think she'll be fine.

She could be at university next year living alone permanently.

We left dd for a week at 17 she didn't want to come on holiday with us so didn't.

What are your concerns??? Is this a serious question?

I started uni at 17, drove 45min each way, each day. Had a part-time job and a boyfriend at 17. I'm sure it never crossed my mums mind to NOT leave me at home alone at that age

17?!? Of course I would.

I've never left her overnight, that's all. Maybe I'm being super-cautious. Sounds like I am!

She's 17, If she's happy to be left alone I wouldn't give it a second thought.

I would, she may be living away from home in a years time

Eh? I had a flat and a full time job at 17.

I'm sure it will be fine my friends and I all went on our 6th year holiday at 17 to Greece. Also I was at uni at 17 (admittedly living at home) but still. I think I was left home alone from 16 onwards.

17 is perfectly reasonable

I left home a week after my 18th bday.
At 17 I doubt my mum knew where I was most o the time at 17 and I wouldnt consider her to have been neglectful parent at all (she was a child protection social worker at the time!)
Yes it sounds like you are being very over cautious. I dont mean that as any criticism. As others have said she could be at uni, and her peers certainly will be. She needs to learn some independence skills now while she has the safety of home to fall back in.

Bloody hell. She's 17. She's practically an adult

She’ll probably hold the door open for you.

Are you serious!? 17!!!?

You can’t be serious. I refuse to believe you’re actually asking this question of a 17 year old!

I left home at 17.
My ds16 will be home alone when hopefully we will be camping next month...
Cut the cord op!!

Left my ds17 alone for a week last year. Very sensible lad, grandparents local.
It really depends on how your dd is, if she’s happy, if your comfortable leaving her etc.

OK OK I get it - I'm being over-cautious! She's not yet 17, just for clarity. But yeah, I guess that doesn't change the answer!

Yes for sure. We left our 3 overnight aged 14, 16 and 18.

In a year's time she could be about to go to uni! It's fine.

The only thing that would worry me is the risk of parties.

I left DS alone overnight for the first time at 15 and 3/4.

I was 14! Lol

At 15 I regularly babysat 3 young children - made them tea, put them to bed & all sorts of other responsibilities.

At 17 I was just a year away from living hours and hours away from a single relative (university). I was "alone overnight" for months at a time and running my own life.

She'll be fine!

I actually don't think I was left home alone at that age. Not because they were worried I couldn't look after myself but more so because of other people like someone getting into our house. My partner has a younger sister, 16, and I wouldn't leave her home alone and her parents don't. I dunno why everyone is so surprised.

I lived in a flat on my own at 17, having moved out about 5 months after my 16th birthday. She’ll be fine

Ah bless you op

At 17 I worked full time was half living with a boyfriend ( some night I stayed at home still ) however I can imagine being like you are when my dc are that age , I think I’m a bit overprotective with then they certainly aren’t allowed anywhere near the freedom I was at Similair ages

She will be fine tho