Leaving 17yo overnight

[chocolatesaltyballs22]

Am just interested in views on this - at what age did you start leaving your teens overnight? We might get a little weekend break sometime in the summer and we were thinking of leaving 17 year old daughter home alone. She is completely happy and comfortable to be left. Sensible. Can cook for herself etc. We would only be a couple of hours away at most and her grandma is only 20 mins away in case of emergency. Would you leave her? She will only just be 17.

TBH the only scenario I was worried about was if we had a break-in. I have no doubt whatsoever that she can look after herself.

She's promised me faithfully that there will be no parties!

Chances of a break in though ? I understand you are feeling a bit anxious about leaving her on her own but she will be fine as you said her gran isn't far away and you can gently remind her to make sure doors are locked.

I wasn't left alone at home until I was 19 and had been at uni a year!

We left ds for one night in March, he's 17. That has been the only time.

If you come back to read this OP, make sure they know where to get help if for example there's a flood or some other house emergency. A week after we'd left ds, we had a flood! It would not have been funny if we'd not been there and he would not have known which plumbers to call (although he could have asked a neighbour).

Good point - thanks. We haven't decided what we're doing yet but will definitely leave emergency contacts.

Been leaving ours since 16 for odd nights.
Now he’s 17 nearly 18 we’re planning 10 days holiday away. He didn’t want to come and it’s term time anyway. His older brother might come home from uni for a couple of days , my mum will visit for a couple and we have good neighbours .

17 is fine

I recently had to leave my 17 year old home alone for 8 nights while his sister had an operation hundreds of miles away. I phoned social services to check this was OK as my abusive ex was threatening to report me . Anyway social services and the police that worked in the multi agency team that got back to me were fine with him being left alone . They said most of the calls they get about 16 and 17 year olds were that they had moved out of home permanently.

My parents retired and pissed off to live abroad when I was 16, leaving me to look after the house and the cat! Yes, I think it is safe.

Now there's an idea @Baaaahhhhh...

Some people really enjoy putting the boot in and giving bitchy responses that they would be unlikely to say in real life

She'll be fine, OP. We left our DD aged 17 last year when we went on a 4 night break. She had a different friend to stay over each night and really enjoyed the independence and responsibility. Perhaps your DD could do the same? Have a lovely time

You know her best OP. My daughter is 16.5 and I’ve not left her overnight yet. We’re going away for a couple of days soon and my parents are coming to stay.

She's old enough to be married with children of her own!

Lol, my parents went on a month long, other-side-of-the-world-holiday when I was 16. I loved it

My dd is 17 later this year and I would say me and most of her friends parents would consider it for a good reason but haven't actually left them yet but would be 'just starting to do it' like you so I don't think it's an odd question!

Thanks everyone, some of you had me doubting my sanity!

@chocolatesaltyballs22 just wondering if you went yet as I have same dilemma not worried about leaving her but I am worried she would have a party and let others stay.
She says she wouldn't as I let her have one outside house a few weeks ago and garage window got broken.
She said she would rather spend the night with her bf (first time) they will be home alone.
I am really scared she would have a big out off control party.
I told her not to go out today to her phone was charged but off she went while I was at work. I messaged her if she didn't get it charged I would be coming to get her so she has it on charge now in a friends house
She can't even be trusted with simple things changes plans every 5 minutes.
She definitely will not come with us.
She also has a part time job and needs a lift there.

Nope not yet, we go next week. I'm worried about possible parties too. Don't really want her friends in the house when we're not there. She says she won't, and I think I trust her.

Fit a ring doorbell and an interior living room cam and then you’ll know exactly what is going on and who is in. It will ping if anyone walks near it, incl burglars.

Pressed send too quickly - meant to add ‘And boyfriends’

I think my son was 15 when first left overnight. 17 is totally fine. In fact she needs to get used to this.

I think she’ll be fine. I have a 16 nearly 17 yo who we’ve never left overnight, just because the moment hasn’t arisen. But I think it might later this year and I’ve been thinking through what he might need to know before we go. All power to the posters who left home at 16 etc, but our kids haven’t done that and everyone needs to start somewhere.

At 17 I moved 300 miles away for Uni. In the nicest possible way, you are being ridiculous!

We're planning on leaving DS1 for a night in a few months, he'll be one month off turning 17. He'll be fine fending for himself, my biggest concern is parties, but he knows he's got this chance to show to me I can trust him.. also we're very good friends with our neighbours who will keep their eyes peeled

I have booked for Sunday night she is 17 Saturday promised there will be no party. So I hope she keeps to her word.
She has work Sunday evening so now I'm panicking about will she get sorted with a lift or what will she do.
Its just one night if house is still standing I will count that as an achievement.

At 17 I went on a boozey holiday to Spain with my friends. She'll be fine!