I have written on here before about my youngest DD. We have had 4 yrs of her terrorising us all. We have had councillors, Camhs (they say it's behavioural not mental) and I agree. She steals, beats me up, has smashed the windscreen of my car while I have been driving, smashed the house up, done drugs, alcohol you name it she has done it. Last year we removed her from the house and she went to the ymca. They tried with her but had called me in to say she is not cooperating and will have to leave, at the same time she took her 'friends' bi polar drugs and ended up in hospital. She was sectioned but was so violent that the hospital put her back over into my care. I have had her back home for 4 months and to start all was good, I can't keep her in college, so have told her to get a part time job she is 18 in March 2020. As a positive move to encourage her I have bought her a car and told her that when she gets a job she can have driving lessons and when she passes and hold down a job the car is hers. She is meant to start a course for being a life guard next week so we have got her a couple of driving lessons as a reward. In the last week she has come back into contact with a so called friend from awhile back and her bad behaviour has come back. She is stealing, lying, getting violent and is coming home off her face.
I just need some advice as she is destroying the family. DH says we should sell the car. I have cancelled her next driving lesson and oldest and middle daughter say that she should be asked to leave again .
Obviously I don't want this, there has never been any help for us out there unless we pay for it but when we have arranged courses she won't go. I worry that she is being taken advantage of, I worry that dealers are going to turn up at our door, we have put cctv up and keep doors locked all the time. I just want her to be ok, I know if she started work it would give her purpose and she will like earning her own money. At the moment I try not to give her money, but if I don't what will she do to get money?
As you can see I am in a mess with this. Any advice would be very appreciated even if I don't like reading it.