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Am I in the wrong?

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Loopymum19 · 17/12/2019 14:17

Hi, its my first time on here but i hope someone can help. My 18 year old Dd is insisting she's going out for new year into a city centre with her 23 year old boyfriend, his mates and their girlfriends. His friends are all aged 23-26 And she's never met any of them or their girlfriends before. She has never been out drinking before or even into a busy pub. Dd maybe 18 but she's very petite for her age. I know I can't control her but city centres are busy enough at weekends let alone new years eve. I've never even spoke to her boyfriend as she will never invite him round. It's 8 days to Christmas and all the arguing is tearing our family apart cos I really don't want her to go. Am I in the wrong? I'm Sick with worry. 😢 I have tried to explain my reasons but nothing I say helps.

OP posts:
HairyFloppins · 18/12/2019 14:14

She is 18, you have to let her go.

I have a just 18 year old as well and I know what it's like.

My DD is off to Manchester NYE for a night away and I'm worried but I can't say no.

TeenPlusTwenties · 19/12/2019 15:25

I'm a bit late to this party, but to me (and I am pretty over protective by MN standards) this is a situation where you need to manage risk, not try to avoid it by not going.

  • discuss safe drinking with her - she isn't used to it and is petite, so she needs to have e.g. 3 soft drinks to any alcoholic one
  • she needs cards/money on her to get home / pay for a taxi
  • you will come and get her if needed
  • stick with BF and in public pubs/clubs, not going off to random bloke's house

That kind of thing

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