Manga porn etc

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Hi, I have a 15yo son, but I’ve never ventured onto the teen boards of Mumsnet before. Be gentle on me! He has a tablet and I’ve always said that until he’s 16 I have the right to monitor his content etc. I’m not sure he realises I do actually have a look from time to time. Occasionally I look at his Instagram chat, but it’s all fairly tame. However, I’ve just noticed the app Discord. I don’t understand this app at all. Anyway, it seems to be chat groups. No idea who the others are, but a lot of illustrated porn is exchanged. Mostly manga porn, also the odd picture of young women with their tits out. He has saved tons and tons of manga porn images in his gallery. Aargh. It’s extremely explicit but doesn’t involve actual people.
Not sure what I should do, if anything. I don’t want to humiliate/embarrass him. I’d seen porn at 15 years old, although very little, and was also having sex. DS is definitely not sexually active. Would you do/say anything? Is it just part of growing up? He has asperger’s, not that it’s especially relevant to this, but he’s quite socially awkward and definitely not dating.

Discord is like chat messageboards for specific interests. You could have a knitting discord for example.

I guess your son is at an age where you can't really hide these things from him. If he's interested in manga or anime I'd consider having a chat with him about how overtly sexualised it is and could be a contributory factor into Japans falling birth/sex rates.

While a lot of manga is great. Some of it is pretty niche porny. I wouldn't be happy with my child looking at tentacle porn to be honest.

Maybe channel his interests into some non porny manga books. Or challenge him to draw in the style. Expand his interest beyond the sexual element.

Thanks Trolltherespawnjeremy. He's already massively into manga, it's one of his interests. Btw what is tentacle Porn?? And are Japanese birth rates falling? I didn't know that. I'll google and see it I can work it into a conversation. The thing is, unless I intervene I can't control which niche types he's looking at, but by intervening I would be humiliating him, he'd be so embarrassed. At 15 do I just turn a blind eye, and just stick to having conversations about these issues generally?

Okay have googled tentacle porn. Yup, very much does what it says on the tin.

Btw my chaste autocorrect keeps changing porn to poem!😄

If he's super into manga maybe see if there's a drawing class nearby. (If you're near a big city they often have workshops in anime/japanese merch shops.)

Or tell him you seen that theres a huge Japan expo in London- doesn't it look cool? Work out his interest in Japanese culture and discuss his understanding of it.

The birthrate in Japan is complicated but basically - people can't afford to move out because property is expensive so they're not having sex... there's also a huge rise in singletons and virgins because they are scared of approaching the other sex due to unrealistic ideals due to the rather laidback nature of gendered sexism in japanese culture and manga in particular.

I think if you can indulge him in a hobby- and turn this into a legitimate interest then at least he might not spend as much time looking at porny stuff.

A lot of cosplay events are very autism friendly as well if that's something he'd be interested in. Good way to meet real people with similar interests and hopefully channel this in a healthier way.

Thanks troll, all very good ideas!

Your son could just be on a perfectly normal discord server (a group of chat rooms), but some of these servers may have channels for porn to appeal to everyone. It is normal and usually a warning flashes up. Don't stop him

Thanks DSDM1256!

I dint even know what manga porn is