A bit of background.
He's actually 20, so not a teenager, but wasn't sure where to post.
He's just failed his 2nd year at uni and has decided to defer his resit and the third year. Uni and I support this decision.
Since I collected him from uni end of June he's been home and not really done much at all.
He plays in a band and really loves that. He's had a few gigs.
He's just started driving lessons.
He has had one unsuccessful temporary job interview.
He's become very philosophical and thoughtful - preachy you might say.
He hasn't asked for money from me so has his loan and allowance. To be fair he's not materialistic.
He's been smoking dope. Evenings he does that he comes back really late and then doesn't get out bed until midday or so. He's on a completely different time zone to me and DS2 so it's hard to do anything together.
We generally have a very good relationship, but I'm thrown by this. He had a very low period around Easter time (hence the exam fails) and seems to be a bit more positive, but how do I respond to him saying "I didn't ask to be born" in response to me wanting him to share the workload of housework and to get a job.