14 and a half year old daughter with very little breast growth

[ajuba]

She started her period at 11 and hasn't had any breast growth since. She has very little breast tissue and still wearing the crop tops she was wearing at age 11. I am also snall busted but have something there. Any similar experiences where there has been further growth?

Hi, I was small chested. And so is my daughter (18). I went down the line of breast implants many many years ago. My daughter has put me to shame and is 'owning' her look. She has chosen not to wear padded bras and rocks her figure with crop tops and literally owns it. I am very proud of her. She doesn't fit even the first size bra.

She has put me to shame with these lollopy lumps of gel on my chest which subsequently have leaked into my armpits.

Boobless is freedom!

But in answer to your question. I would say that if your daughter was destined to be big chested she would be well on her way now. So perhaps start the process now of acceptance and ownership. Also go to the doctors and talk it through. My daughter did. But there is literally nothing they can do anyway.

Good luck. xx

Still pretty flat chested here age 35.

Some get boobs, some pretty much don't!

thanks all. I really hope she has another growth spurt soon but there isn't much anyone can do about. Thinking of taking her to the doctors but I remember being told around her age that I probably wouldn't grow anymore and being upset by it but I'm sure I was more fully formed than she is. There's just nothing there!

I'm small chested, and growing up my mum was also concerned about this. The concern came out more like judgment and shame, and I felt really awful about it. Some people get boobs and some don't, it's nothing to worry about and is instead something to own like a PP said. I don't think you should make a big deal of it at all, and I don't think a visit to the GP is particularly warranted either if she's otherwise developing normally.

Does it bother your daughter? If not then who cares? We all come in different shapes and sizes!

Unless she asks you for help, I wouldn’t take her to a doctor. I imagine she would be very hurt/embarrassed.

Show her some female runners physiques. They are super fit & healthy. Maybe buy her a Wonderbra if she would like one.

I was flat chested until my 20s, and never busty. I managed to ebf a my ds for 6 months and carried on feeding until 18 months so it didn’t seem to be a problem physically.
Now in 50s I am still shapely while some of my contemporaries need a lot of support. No back ache either. Being small busted can be good.

You have a small bust and you are surprised that your daughter has a small bust? 😕 Really?

I had a tiny bust until I got pregnant. Now I have what's probably about average at a 30F. I far preferred being small-busted. I didn't realise what a nuisance breasts actually are.

I am very flat chested (aged 36 and on second pregnancy - and not really grown with either pregnancy) - I always thought they'd grow but they never did. I was v self conscious when I was younger but absolutely fine with it now. However, if my mum had taken me to the doctor with concerns I would probably have felt even worse.

I feel anxiety sweeping over me reading this as someone who also has very little breast tissue. It did bother me enormously when I was younger and this discussion is bringing all that back. It's really not something I think about now I'm in my 40s. I have come to a place of acceptance! I breastfed my children very easily and I can't say any sexual partners have ever had any complaints. Plenty of people prefer it just as plenty like larger breasts.

Jocasta, I am the same. it bothered me when i was younger but now in my 40s and having filled out slightly I am ok with it. I guess knowing my daughter is going through the same angst is upsetting and sad for me.

But do you know she is “going through the same angst”? You haven’t mentioned discussing it with her. Maybe she is perfectly happy with her body, and why wouldn’t she be?

Is she upset about her lack of boobs, because you seem slightly overwrought. She’s only 14! She’s still growing in every way. And as you said, you had small boobs so it may just be that she does too. Calm down and unless she is upset, don’t turn this into an issue for her.