Dd2 doesn't like dd1's boyfriend staying over.

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He stays over maybe three Saturdays a month - arrives about 6 pm, leaves around noon on Sunday.
Dd1 is 17 and off to uni in September, dd2 is 15.
I feel dd2 has to deal with it. I don't think three nights a month is excessive, and when he's here he's very polite, we all have dinner then dd1 and bf do their own thing.
Dd2 says she feels uncomfortable in her own home and therefore I shouldn't allow it so often. But I tell her she'll prob feel differently one day and will want the same or more then.
Also, with dd1 leaving for uni soon I don't want to make her feel unwelcome.
Who do you think is right?

@NabooThatsWho Ah, I didn't read that far- only to wear people were talking about if daughter2 could hear her.

Like I said, at home when no-ones around or at the boyfriends house. Like hell I'd be shagging in my parents house if that's the case with daughter1!

*where 🤦🏻‍♀️

Tbh I have no idea if they are or not, which shows how discreet they are.

I kind of get where DD2 is coming from. Although I like having people to stay I can never truly relax when there is someone else in the house. This is not a reflection on the guest it is just how I feel about wanting to have my own space and after a really busy full on week I just want to relax in my own home at weekends. I think it is something to do with being a social or extroverted introvert! Perhaps your DD2 is like this too.

I get it as well, but it's just about being fair because I also understand dd1's wish to be with bf

Can't you reach a compromise? Acknowledge her worries and say you will speak to DD1 about dropping one evening. Suggest she stays at a friend's occasionally or has a friend stay over too? Tricky with teens but there is nothing worse than feeling like you can't relax in your own home. Good luck! X

I think she’s just being a bit of a diva because she’s 15 and that’s what 15 year olds do! In a year or so she’ll probably get a BF and want him round at weekends too. I think it’s great that you allow him to stay and DD2 can’t even provide a reason.

I would put it this way:

Her friend coming and staying is as much as an imposition on your privacy as her sisters bf staying is on hers. So you all have to compromise. I don't think one night 3 weekends out of 4 is too much. Maybe 2 would be better.