Hi all
Sorry for the long post but I'm having a hard time at home at the moment and need some perspective. I've been with my husband for 6 years, have 2 dd and I also have a dd (14 ) from previous marriage.
Dd lives with us full time and sees her dad every other weekend. Since meeting dh, we don't do much fun things together as we used to. Hardly anything at all since dd3 was born. She has an amazing relationship with her dad and she also likes my dh. Unfortunately dd and dh have arguments on monthly basis. Few days ago my dh went out to get some pizza and when he came back he put the pizza down to take his coat off. Dd ran towards him saying FOOD, FOOD and took the pizza.
Dh raised his voice and called her rude. She answered back saying she was playing(she does that to me), and was really upset that he was so offended by her "joke".
Dh came to me and started to saying how rude she was for not saying thank you for getting the pizza, daughter comes in and they started to argue again. I said to him that was a joke and he goes mental saying that I have undermine him and so on. Then dh is angry with me, dd is crying her eyes out in the kitchen asking why he has to be so rude to her.
I would probably agree with him that it was wrong of me to say that in front of her, but for the last 6 years I have seen him calling her rude a lot, lazy, ignoring her, being sarcastic, and basically criticizing her to me on so many occasions. On the other hand he does take her out sometimes. She said to me she doesn't enjoy sitting downstairs with us as dh is always criticizing her or making her feel inadequate. I feel that, he basically resents the fact that I have a daughter from another man.
AIBU to think that my relationship might be damaging to my daughter's mental health?