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Drug dealers threatening me at my home

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Butterflybelly · 20/01/2019 23:03

I feel sick with anxiety about this. Two men intimidated me at my home tonight saying my 16 year old owes them money. I tried to stand my ground and get them to leave. They left saying they had tried to resolve it peacefully but clearly that wasn’t working. I do not know what to do. I live alone with my son. I have no one nearby to help. I don’t have the money to pay them and don’t know if I should anyway. I do not know what to do or who to turn to.

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ZogTheOrangeDragon · 20/01/2019 23:04

I’d report to the police.

AnyFucker · 20/01/2019 23:05

Police.

JenniferJareau · 20/01/2019 23:05

How frightening. I hope you are ok

What does you son say about their visit? Does he owe them money?

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Butterflybelly · 20/01/2019 23:06

I’m really not sure if that’s the best thing.

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HollowTalk · 20/01/2019 23:06

I think you should tell the police, too, but it does mean your son will have to face the consequences for what he's been doing. I think you need the protection of the police.

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Butterflybelly · 20/01/2019 23:06

He said he bought £120 worth but they’ve put his debt up to £200 now.

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AnyFucker · 20/01/2019 23:07

Why not ?

If your son has been buying drugs then you need to dob him in. He will get the short, sharp shock he needs.

Ribbonsonabox · 20/01/2019 23:07

What else can you do but report it to the police?

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Butterflybelly · 20/01/2019 23:07

I’m really reluctant to do that. My son has been doing so much better and just getting his life back in track.

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Kindofnewtothis · 20/01/2019 23:08

Calling the police is a bad idea usually, you're just going to have to pay up sadly

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Butterflybelly · 20/01/2019 23:08

That’s not how it works anyfucker. It’s more complicated than that.

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AnyFucker · 20/01/2019 23:08

Better than what ?

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Butterflybelly · 20/01/2019 23:08

Yes I suspect I’ll have to pay up.

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Butterflybelly · 20/01/2019 23:09

Better than using weed. Better in lots of ways.

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AnyFucker · 20/01/2019 23:09

Is there a massive drip feed coming ?

Or, how about you deal with this yourself ? Because that has been working well for you so far, huh ?

AnyFucker · 20/01/2019 23:11

What has he bought for £120 that is "better" than weed ?

You are not making sense.

CrispbuttyNo1 · 20/01/2019 23:14

I wouldn’t go to the police. Not if they know where you live. I know it’s the most logical thing and the “right” thing, but these aren’t logical or agreeable people. And they won’t appreciate being grassed up. I would be more concerned about my safety and my sons safety than telling the police.

Arrange to pay the money with them. Ask them to stop adding interest onto the debt. They would rather have the money in bits than no money.

Is this an old debt of your sons? What is his reaction to bringing this shit to your doorstep?

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Butterflybelly · 20/01/2019 23:14

Don’t engage them if it’s not making sense. I’m looking for support not to be someone’s late night punch bag.

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CrumpBrunette · 20/01/2019 23:15

Unfortunately I wouldn't advise calling the police either, I've seen families terrorised (and worse) for years for 'grassing'. Job for your son ASAP? Anything he can sell? These really are the worst types of people to owe money to Sad

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Butterflybelly · 20/01/2019 23:16

I agree crispy. Yes an old debt. My son tells me he’s been avoiding it and hoped it would just go away.

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FabulouslyGlamorousFerret · 20/01/2019 23:16

Find the money - pay it off and make it clear to your son the consequence of what he has done.

gamerchick · 20/01/2019 23:16

That’s not how it works anyfucker. It’s more complicated than that

From someone who used to hide under the window with a toddler because dealers were braying on the door for my ex's drug debts damned right I would ring the police now. I wish I had have done then but was ruled by fear. I coughed up a fortune to these fuckers. I'd crucify any dealer knocking on my door for money if it was my son.

If you pay he'll just get more layons. He will and you know it.

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Butterflybelly · 20/01/2019 23:17

Crump. Just had a discussion and my son said he would try to find some work. We have a family member he may be able to do a few days here and here with.

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Rememberyourhat · 20/01/2019 23:17

Police. You’ll regret it if not. Do you really think if you pay up they’ll go away?

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Butterflybelly · 20/01/2019 23:18

I don’t what your situation was gamer but I won’t be calling the police. It will not help.

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