I have NC for this. Sorry this will be long.
DD (who is almost 13 and in Yr 8) has a friend at school who is pretty screwed up at the moment. She has been in quite a bit of trouble at school lately. She has got in a fight with another girl, has had the school confiscate her phone twice for using it in lessons and she has had some pretty big bust-ups with her parents of late (I have had her Mum have to come and pick her up from our house after school because she came without telling them when she was grounded). I don’t know her parents particularly well.
DD confided in me last week that she is really worried about her friend and she thinks she is completely out of control and acting dangerously. Apparently she says that she is having regular sex and that she lost her virginity Xmas last year, when she was 11. DD says that she is very graphic with the details. The friend doesn’t have a boyfriend and when DD asked who she is having sex with she says that it is with boys she meets at parties. Apparently she goes out to parties a lot (with another group of friends that DD doesn’t know and didn’t even know existed) and gets drunk. She says that she also goes up to London on the train and meets an older boy that she has sex with. There are a few other friends that also know and whenever they try and quiz her on details she is quite vague but is then very graphic when describing the sex. I am inclined to think that she lying but even that in itself is very worrying!
The friend is very volatile, manic one minute and then depressed and in tears the next. There have been quite a few parties in their year group of late and all the girls take it in turns to get ready round someone’s house. This girl always dresses highly provocatively and is wearing thongs and push-up bras, which I think is highly inappropriate at 12 years old. She is totally boy-crazy and obsesses about one boy after the other at school. Nobody knows who the boys are that she says she is having sex with. They don’t go to the same school, in fact DD doesn’t even know how old they are supposed to be. Friend has days when when she is texting DD on insta saying that she hates herself and that even her parents don’t love her and that she’d be better off dead. But then she’s manic and completely hyper the next 2 days. Friend says that she hates her parents and wishes that she didn’t have to leave with them.
I don’t know what to do. DD is so worried about her, enough to tell me about it. I am now obviously worried and don’t know if I should speak to the Mum about it? DD is petrified and begging me not to as her friend will hate her. But I’m so worried in case it’s all true and something happens to her friend. Really don’t know what to do for the best!!!
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Funsize · 12/12/2018 14:47
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