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Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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16 year old son

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Lostmom2 · 31/01/2018 09:12

Hi. My son I driving me crazy I'm at my whits end, he constantly thinks im accusing him of something from asking a simple question. Examples: a certain shampoo ran out which I don't use my self, he says he hasn't used it and throws the bottle screaming at me to stop accusing him of things. A glass drops in his room I ask what happened, he shouts it wasn't him. May I add that us two are the only ppl that live in this house. He says I'm hearing things and I make things up. Does he honestly think he is right or what? I'm cracking up 😣

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Zebrasmummy · 01/02/2018 22:11

Try looking up some stuff on teenage brain development. They're "rewiring" their brains and it can get a bit Middleton picking up social cues. Nicola Morgan (I think that's her name) did a good book and there's some fantastic TedTalks as well.

Zebrasmummy · 01/02/2018 22:12

I meant muddled, not Middleton! Sorry

Foolish1 · 01/02/2018 22:20

Tel him to stop being a knob and then give him lots of space.

Northernparent68 · 02/02/2018 09:43

There’s something to be said for giving him space, maybe stop questioning him about things like shampoo running out, and dropped glasses. He probably feels you re on his case.

flyingcrow · 10/02/2018 23:59

Try this book: How to Talk so Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk. by Faber and Mazlish. Brilliant!

HannahSMitch · 11/02/2018 10:07

Help........
My son is 16, he is addicted to weed ...yes I believe that the strong stuff you buy today is addictive. He is on his second try to do GCSEs and is about to get excluded.
And he is violent and threatening when I refuse to give him money.
There is no father in the picture.
He was on a zero tolerance to bad behaviour. Last chance.
And he's just gone nuts and terrified me.

EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic · 11/02/2018 11:05

@HannahSMitch can you start your own thread? You ,ah get some more responses Smile

Ryebreadandwine · 13/02/2018 18:10

Hannah I’m experiencing similar. Mine is not quite out of control but I’m so worried about him. I don’t think he’s choosing well. He’s been utterly vile to me tonight. I’m in bed already to keep out of the way. I’m also a single parent. I’m sorry I’m no help. Maybe someone else will come along with wise words. Lostmom. Mine also only appears to hear criticism from me. Hopefully your son is going through a short phase.

Iluvthe80s · 13/02/2018 21:27

flyingcrow book turned up today. And a book about the teenage brain-daughter 11 and already acting up and 15 year old son....is "challenging" so hoping to get some insight

JDilla · 15/02/2018 00:33

What you're experiencing is a simple Mother/Son dynamic, both parties think they're in the right all the time so you'll inevitably clash, just give him space it's all part of being a teen.

Chocrock · 15/02/2018 10:40

I can relate to all of you - My 16 year old DS takes everything I say as a criticism. He goes from zero to boiling point in 1 second and becomes verbally abusuve. Afterwards he will say it is because I said something which I am sure I didn’t say! I’m beginning to doubt myself and feel I am going crazy sometimes.
When he isn’t angry he is lovely and loving but I can’t respond as I am so hurt by his outbursts which then leads to him saying that I hate him and another torrent of abuse. I don’t know how to stop this downward spiral

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