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[littlebillie]

Just wanted to check if this is normal DD met up with friend yesterday in the town her friend came on the bus.

They ended up at our house and around 6 I asked what tine her mum was collecting her. "My mum is busy do you will have to take me home"

So I did it's at round 25 minute round trip. I am just surprised family's are like this!

Cheeky, but not sure what you could’ve done otherwise

I think that next time. agree the arrangements with your daughter beforehand. Tell her that if she is bringing a friend back, the friend needs to have made arrangements for getting home. We have always collected my dd or stressed (once she got older) that she needed to leave earlier enough to take public transport home.

I don't drive so maybe focus on this more than is usual but I would tend to check dd''s friends knew which bus they were getting fairly early in the proceedings. They generally already know as dd will bring it up.
If they didn't have any cash I would give them some.

Some haven't got the bus much before as their parents drive so I will be quite supportive about looking up bus timetables if that's needed.

I would find it presumptuous if someone assume I could magic them to their house at their whim.

Cheeky bugger! I would have done what you did, little choice eh? But would have said she is always welcome but will need to make arrangements to get home with her parents next time. I may have been PA and mumbled something about having to change my own plans at last minute to accommodate her for good measure!

OP, is it possible your own DD may have told the friend that you would be fine with giving her a lift home? But if she didn't, the friend was being cheeky. My DD is sometimes given a lift home by her friends' parents, but I would never assume it. I think you should have a word with your DD and make clear that in future you don't want friend assuming that you will give her a lift home.

Thanks all I thought the same wary if having her here but I will clarify with her mum next time 🙄

She came on the bus she can leave on the bus.

You should have just said, "Sorry, I won't be able to do that. Phone your mum" and left the room. CF!

Bloody cheek! Are they 13 or 19?

Keep a wine glass handy and say you have had a drink and can't drive!!
Cf!!

There comes a point with young teens when the balance changes a bit and adults can find they're doing what they're told by young people. You need to make sure this doesn't happen again, OP.

Cheeky. How old is the child? She came on the bus and then ‘expected’ a lift home? Upto her or her parents to arrange how she got home, not you.

If that is how they phrased it I would have said "Sorry, I can't, I've made other plans". If it was pre-arranged, not a problem, but nobody can just drop things on you.

You may have had other plans, or had a drink or anything. Even if you hadn't on that occasion, you should be firm to ensure it doesn't happen on another occasion when you had!

Definitely explain to your daughter that this can't happen again. The girl must leave in time to catch a bus, or arrange a lift.

Sorry noone told me and I’ve already had 🍷and can’t drive, can you call your mum and dad and ask them to collect you now or they can arrange a taxi and pay at their end.

My children always ask me if it's OK to bring a friend or for them to visit friends. My first question is how are they/you getting home? Better to be clear up front, and with none of this assumption that there is a mum somewhere who is responsible for transport. They also know that there are a finite amount of lifts available before dh and I get pissed off and say no so they don't take the piss too much.

Bloody cheek. My DD (16) had a friend like this. Another parent picked up my DD, her DD and this friend from a party the other week and instead of going home she got out at our house with my DD.

She was planning on staying the night but my DD said no. The other mum had driven off and the girl came in and suggested I ordered her an uber on my account!

Thankfully she seems to have drifted off the scene now, I think DD realised what she was like.