My 15 year old just punched the door inside of me

[Ryebreadandwine]

I’m sitting in my car crying. I can honestly say I hate my life. All because he’s had access to the internet taken away. I’m frightened to go home.

Don't back down. Try to stay calm. Do you have anyone else at home?

I'm so sorry, my ds did the same when he was15 is it just the 2 of you at home?

I’m on my own with him. I need help but I have none.

deep deep breaths
is there anyone you can call?

He’s already caused hundreds of pounds of damage. His father is useless.

How long have you been in the car?

When he loses his temper, how long does he normally take to calm down again?

No ones answering their phones. I’m embarrassed to ask for help from friends. There’s not much they can do.

Do you have a friend or relative who could come back to the house with you?

What had he done for you to remove the internet? Unfortunately for so many children now the removal of the internet is seen as the worst possible thing you can do and if they don't think the punishment fits the crime they can be really horrible.

I have brilliant support from Early Years, she has really helped me with dd. Could you call them?

I suspect he may have left the house. I’ll go back in when I can stop crying. I can’t face any more damage in the house.

Can you tell us what happened? He punched the door? Did he do hundreds of pounds worth of damage just now? Do you think he'd hurt you if you went back?

I think you were wise to get out of the way for a while. Please don't be afraid of asking a friend for help. You know you'd give that help yourself, don't you?

Rye, outside support has saved me.
Dd was and still has the potential to be completely out of control, she has damaged the house etc etc
there are some brilliant people out there, there is hope

She is 15
please pm me if you want to

He has been expelled from school. He’s having lots of detention already at new school. He was having tech removed for yet another detention and phone removed by the school for using it in class. He refuses to receive sanctions. He is likely to be expelled from this school too. It was a planned move. They said if it’s not working out he will have to go to a pupil referral unit. I suspect that will be the next move.

Rye I’m so sorry. When it comes to WiFi they can go a bit crazy. I had the same with my DS a while back.

But I followed the MN advice, stayed strong, didn’t negotiate or argue but stuck quietly to my guns and it passed.

I then contacted his school and told them about his aggression. They talked to him and gave me a local organisation to contact if things got worse. Fortunately they haven’t. Maybe you could do the same.

It is so hard when you’re a single mum of a teenage boy who is physically stronger than you and who has hormones making him aggressive. People have no idea how hard it is.

Calm yourself down, go back in and stay cool. You got this

No, last lot of damage was when he was expelled. Goodness knows if he’s done any more damage tonight. I can’t face going in.

He’s at the door now.

I've been through this too with Dd, it's awful, I understand.

You poor thing. I'm sorry.

Which door? Your car door?

Just focus on your safety for now.

I know this sounds drastic but if he hits you you shouldn’t feel bad about calling the police.

Hugs op xx

As ever he can’t understand why he had WiFi removed and has now just gone out. He just does as he pleases. He will not listen to anything I say.

I put Dd in care, I had to for her and me.
She's back home now but I have no regrets at all, it was the right thing to do.
Would this be possible for you?

I used to work with young people in a special unit for pupils that had used all there chances. It might help to seek advice from a unit in your area