My 15 year old just punched the door inside of me

[Ryebreadandwine]

I’m sitting in my car crying. I can honestly say I hate my life. All because he’s had access to the internet taken away. I’m frightened to go home.

Is there a chance that he listens more than you think he does? Is it worth trying to have a calm conversation when he comes back?

What a horrible situation. Try to keep yourself safe, could you stay anywhere else tonight?

I can’t leave him on his own. I’ll go in eventually but he will try to wear me down. He won’t leave me alone until he gets his own way.

He’s locked me out. I’m now eating fish and chips in The car. I was tempted to go to a hotel, order dinner and stay away. I opted for fish and chips instead.

He’s locked you out?

Would you consider calling the police for the damage to your property? You need some help OP, can you speak to the school?

I’m giving him time to cool down., I don’t want them waste police time on a domestic matter. I can’t see it benefitting anyone. He will let me in eventually. In the meanwhile I’m enjoying my fish and chips.

I'm going through this with my dd ATM it's so draining. I'm either at school in a meeting, taking her out of school or trying to stop her kicking off.

Luckily my school is brilliant but she a nightmare for them and me.

She's smashed my house up and the police came and we're totally on my side it's not as scary phoning the police they've seen it loads so don't be frightened.

Hand hold if you need it ❤️

And I know you don't want to waste police time but it works by showing him you're not going to take his crap anymore, the police and other agencies will work together to help you and you might get some extra support.
They won't just turn up and drag him off.

You should ring the police, it's not a waste.
Step back from your situation a little bit and think about what you would do if this wasn't your child doing this.

I’m now waiting for my sister. I need to take her to a&e. What a night. I do worry leaving him. I know I’m soft but I hate letting him stew. I know he’s really struggling right now. I just don’t know how to help him. It might do him some good to be on his own. Without WiFi! I enjoyed my fish and chips. Thanks all for supporting me. Otherwise I would have been completely alone. Goodness knows what I’ll face when I’m back.

The PRU was a great way for my ds to realise his behaviour was out of control, he learned ways to manage his anger and got back into main stream school and passed exams . Police had been involved at times, don't be afraid to call them .

The police are great. Hope you are ok

I really hope you are okay and glad you enjoyed your fish and chips. The ones we love really can hurt us the most. We are all here to listen and help should you need it.

Please phone the police and get advice. They will help you. I had major problems with ds1 and had a long running thread on here. Feel free to message me- I have lots of advice and teach in a pru :)

Eventually got home late last night. Ds was asleep. Had hellish morning. I work from home. Went to log in to workstation. He’s taken the WiFi box to school with him which means I can’t log on. I’ll have to source a wire to plug straight in to my computer. I’m not sure how much more I can take of this child. I honestly do not know what to do.

Seek help. Ring social services. By doing nothing your not helping him or you. Get advice and support. D's are amazing they can help lots

I’ve already spoken to social worker I know. I really don’t think we’re at that stage yet. I’ve messaged the school this morning to see if they can help. I can’t believe my life with my child has ended up this way. I need to stop feeling sorry for myself and pull myself together. I’ve got to work and this is having a negative impact. I’m going to get through it.

Rye, you need a family support worker. Please. Without mine i would be having a breakdown.

I would have gone to his school and retrieved the bloody box. You need to start standing up for yourself and your home.

I did just that wanna. I’m trying.

I hope you are Ok? It sounds so difficult. My dd is only 3 so I don't really know what I would do.

Has anything happened to cause him to be so angry? Have you taken him to the doctors to see about counselling to see if it could help with anger?

I only ask because when I was younger I was really angry as a teen and I think counselling could have helped me. Mine was because my dad left us. I didn't mean to take it out on my mum but as a teen you still can't really control your feelings too well and that might be the only way he knows how to get his anger out.

Sorry if my post isn't helpful.
I hope it gets better for you

Rye my heart goes out to you.
Sadly I have been going through similar.
How are you holding up today?

Awful. So sorry you're living with this. You do need some firm, official
Intervention though. Think of it as tough love. Taken the WiFi box? Sounds like v controlling behaviour on top of violence. For his own sake as well as yours I think you need to talk to someone official.
None of this is your fault... just get help. For both of you x

Wanna - what I've learnt from watching/ supporting a friend going through very similar shit with two of her teens is that the advice we give comes from a place where we feel mentally strong and capable.

My friend and the OP are so worn down and exhausted by it all that it really isn't as simple as 'standing up for yourself and your home'

Hear hear Sandy. I only managed to turn it around enough to stop us all crashing with outside support.
I am stronger now than I have ever been, but I have also never been as close to the edge of sanity.