My 15 year old just punched the door inside of me

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I’m sitting in my car crying. I can honestly say I hate my life. All because he’s had access to the internet taken away. I’m frightened to go home.

I didn't mean it to sound flippant sorry I have tons of experience of this and the only way I broke the cycle with the eldest was to say 'enough' and not have him on the property.

I know what it is to be worn down and fed up. I have three teen boys, two with asd and same two with significant mental health problems.

Please do not despair. A PRU is probably just what he needs and could be the making of him. The young man who does carpentry and odd jobs for us was in just this position once; but he has now turned his life around, learned a craft and is a skilled and reliable workman.

So sorry you're dealing with this op. It sounds awful.
I am facing similar, but on a much smaller scale, with my 11 yr old just now. It's just so wearing. Your home should be your sanctuary and when it's stressful there is just nowhere to go and regroup. Especially if you work at home too.
I'm sorry, I have no useful advice, but you are not alone.

I don’t want them waste police time on a domestic matter. - in the kindest possible way, would you say that to a woman who was dealing with this from a husband/partner? This is domestic violence and this situation isn't given enough attention by the media/other agencies.

My brother was like your son. My life (and my mums) was made complete hell (broke my mums ribs, smashed up the house and I was beaten on a daily basis). The ONLY thing that ended it was calling the police and having him removed from the house (though he was 18 at the time). You would not be wasting police time and it could be the shock he needs. Good luck OP I know you must be between a rock and a hard place not knowing whether to punish him or help him but you can do both and actually calling the police WILL help him long-term.

Thanks everyone. It’s not consistently difficult. I feel much better today. We’re not often in this position. It seems to come in waves. I wonder if he’s using drugs at the weekends. It might be why his moods are horrendous these days. I have asked him. He says no. I spoke with the school yesterday. They said they have no issues with him. If you met him you would think he was charming. His friends parents do. I’ve tried to get him to agree to private therapy. He says no. I honestly don’t think any statutory agencies will get involved. I live in a major city and they’re massively under resourced. If he had actually hit me I would have definitely rang the police. We had an evening of homework and even a cuddle. I’m planning further discussion tonight. Please don’t think I’m doing nothing. I’m so thankful for all your comments and support.

I could have written your post a few years back.
School never had any problems everyone thought he was fine. Now here we are still with a troubled child who won't get help-except now he is an adult and there is No one who will help.