DS set to fail the lot

[themoon66]

The school have just rung me to say he hasn't handed in 4 out of his 5 pieces of coursework for English GCSE. English is his favourite subject, so god only knows what the other subjects are going to be like.

I spoke to his head of year who told me all the teachers are worried about him, and have been for a month or more now. They say they talk to him, but it's like there is nothing behind his eyes or any clues that he is even listening.

He is one of the cleverest in the school... predicted A stars all the way. I'm breaking my heart over what to do... sat here crying as I type

What can have happened to my clever, bright, sparky DS? It's like he has given up.

He has been off school all week with 'tummy ache' which he is doubled up with. Am waiting for the GP to ring me back with results of blood tests done on Monday. I am thinking now that its psycho-somatic and he is skivving school because he knows the shit is going to hit the fan this week, with course work being handed in etc.

He missed his Art GCSE exam yesterday and has done no coursework at all for that... so that one's a fail straight off.

What can I do? DH wants to kick him up the arse, but I think he must have depression or something.

Just wanted to type it all out on MN really to get my thoughts in order and try to raise some ideas of what to do next.

Sorry it's long.

Lilo... just keep on his case is the best advice I can give. I made the mistake of thinking DS was mature and intelligent enough to be in charge of his own revision.

If you have even an inkling that he is messing around/skivving etc, make an appointment to see head of year and get it sorted early on.

And make sure you actually SEE the coursework he claims he has finished.

well done him and you

just found this again, what a relief, well done to your WHOLE family. You all deserve praise.

Now he is refusing to go to the grammar school to do A-levels. His place there was offered on the grounds he got 6 Bs minimum, which he has exceeded.

Am tempted to just let him go back to his old school as I have no fight left in me.

He is very shy and quiet and I suppose being the new boy at the grammar must be too scary for him.

Bloody teenagers.... lurch from one problem/crisis to another.

Great news on his results themoon66! I've only just seen this. Well done him, and you, and his teachers.

I would actually encourage him to go to the Grammar. A new start and a new ethos and work-ethic will probably be very good for him.

Sixth form used to be a new start at school anyway, as so many students left after GCSEs. But these days if they have failed some of their GCSEs they are just as likely to stay on at school and re-sit them there, as to go to a college to re-do them.