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Unprotected sex

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Aroundtheworldandback · 29/12/2016 18:06

Did 19 confided in me that she'd had a one night stand at uni, condom broke and she took the morning after pill. She then started to bleed so was put on antibiotics by gp who didn't give her much other info.

I'm making her go back to gp to be tested for anything she may have picked up by this. Does anyone have any idea what she should be tested for (apart from obvious like HIV)?

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Crumbs1 · 29/12/2016 18:09

Take her to a sexual health clinic not the GP. They'll screen for everything.

PaperdollCartoon · 29/12/2016 18:14

Go to your nearest sexual health clinic and they will just test for everything. GP will just send her to a sexual health clinic.

madgingermunchkin · 29/12/2016 18:20

The bleed was probably from the morning after pill.

I had to take it once and it messed with my cycle for a month or two. It is also stated as a side effect.

Doctors can also do STI testing (mine does). It's a swab for gonorrhoea and chlamydia and a blood test for HIV and syphillis; you'll probably need to arrange an appointment with the nurse for the blood test.

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Aroundtheworldandback · 29/12/2016 22:54

Thanks so much. Madgingermunchkin the bleed went on for a week so i was thinking it was an infection, especially as it cleared after the antibiotics but maybe it was the morning after pill.

Its a private gp and I've told her to ask for all tests but if no joy will direct her to a sexual health clinic.

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madgingermunchkin · 29/12/2016 23:49

No ide say that was about right. I had a bit of bleeding for a week or so and then my actual period was around 2 weeks late.

Not only that, but most women don't show signs of STI's, although the most common sign is a change in discharge; smell, texture, colour etc.

Milklollies · 29/12/2016 23:53

If the ons was more than 72 hours ago then she can only wait for results. It's irresponsible of you to not have taught this stuff before. You need to tell her that in the future if she had unprotected sex then within 24-48 hours she needs to run to the Sti clinic and get pep. HIV is increasing fast and I would hate to see your daughter get it for not taking precautions. We need to each take individual responsibility when opportunity allows. I'm not shaming her but it's would be sad if the circumstances ended up in a worst case scenario.

Milklollies · 29/12/2016 23:55

If the pearl clutched types think that HIV only affects gay men and foreigners then think again. This post is to fight off anyone who might post laughing about HIV.

MollyHuaCha · 29/12/2016 23:59

Bit harsh Milklollies. OP might well have 'taught' it, but at 19, DD is an adult.

kormachameleon · 30/12/2016 00:55

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Milklollies · 30/12/2016 01:42

It will be your fault if your kids don't know it now korma as you've read it online now. It's not about doing as you say but getting them to think on a worst case basis. I recommend every parent on this forum should take their 16-18yr old children to a sti clinic if they are sexually active. Both mums and dads in this country take a 'leave it to the sex Ed class approach' to sexual health until something goes drastically wrong.

It's a very British trait I see often about passing on the buck. You brought that child into the world, it's your responsibility to make sure that child is informed. The fact that we have campaigns and other informatials is due to public health policy.

We all have sex and should live a happy, free and sustainable lives but healthcare will be a polarising factor in a much more dangerous way in the next 10 years. Mark my words with things like antibiotic resistance growing in the uk. Sooner or later the NHS will be purely privatised. Clamidya might not be taken seriously today but if a antibiotic resistant version spreads than people will eventually die from it.

Dollyparton3 · 30/12/2016 09:49

Not sure what Milklollies is on but I'd advise a trip to the STD clinic to be sure. I'm not sure the GP's action of whacking her on antibiotics because of a bleed post morning after pill stacks up in my mind. Something doesn't ring entirely true in that bit.

Bagina · 30/12/2016 09:55

To my knowledge she will have been given the antibiotics for chlamydia. They give them to practically everyone who has had unprotected sex. They don't wait for results these days. They will issue them as a matter of course. They do in this city anyway.

At the clinic she will have swabs taken and asked if she wants a blood test too. Do you still have to wait 3 months for hiv to show?

Poor thing; it happens to most of us. She was trying to be sensible.

Bagina · 30/12/2016 10:00

Just wanted to say that this private gp doesn't seem to have really looked after your dd. She's doesn't know what's happening to her. A gum clinic would handle this really well imo: give her proper treatment and lots of information.

AnyFucker · 30/12/2016 10:04

Bizarre rant from milk there. It says in the op the condim broke, so the 19yo was taking precautions.

I agree that a sexual health clinic is the way to go.

specialsubject · 30/12/2016 10:12

The girl did all the right things - used a condom and when it failed went for the morning after pill. Yes, a sexual health check would also be good but she wasn't irresponsible.

MrsFinkelstein · 30/12/2016 10:23

I would advise going to a sexual health clinic, I'm slightly concerned at the GPs actions in just handing out antibiotics for a common, well known side effect of the morning after pill. That is not following any local or national guideline.

I work in sexual health and we only treat a confirmed infection or a contact of a confirmed infection, as per national guidelines. Or if we see obvious symptoms.

Accurate screening for chlamydia & gonorrhoea can be done 2 weeks after sexual contact, you can get an accurate result in majority of people 4 weeks after SI with HIV but we recommend screening again at 3 months to confirm for HIV & syphilis. Hep B & C can take up to 9 months to confirm.

Your daughter should also do a pregnancy test 3 weeks after EC if she's not had a normal period.

NerrSnerr · 30/12/2016 10:43

A sexual health clinic would be better than a private GP. They have the knowledge and skills in this area. There's no need for her to be embarrassed, people go for all sorts of reason for example I get my implant put in at a sexual health drop in clinic.

Bagina · 30/12/2016 10:51

I work in sexual health and we only treat a confirmed infection or a contact of a confirmed infection, as per national guidelines. Or if we see obvious symptoms.

Is this true for everywhere then? I know they were giving out antibiotics directly after swabs were taken. Made to take them whilst still in consultation room. Males and females. All swabs were clear. I know we have very high rates of infection here.

Milklollies · 30/12/2016 12:03

My apologies I didn't read the op clearly. The moment I thought of sti's I had flashbacks to days of uni where some of friends made foolish decisions with dangerous outcomes. I apologise to the OP for causing offence ( I tend to have a habit of that when I'm on a crusade). Have a good day.

AnyFucker · 30/12/2016 13:01

Proper apology there Xmas Wink

MrsFinkelstein · 30/12/2016 13:10

Should be Bagina, if someone is a confirmed contact of chlamydia you swab and treat same day, but only if they are a contact of someone with a confirmed infection. If you check microscopically during the consultation and something like NSU is diagnosed you would treat same day.

If someone comes in with no symptoms and just wants an STI screen why would you treat them? Improper and incorrect treatment is why we have resistant strains of gonorrhoea now.

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Aroundtheworldandback · 30/12/2016 21:57

No offence taken Milkylollies. Bagina I didn't know antibiotics eliminates Chlamydia. The gp she saw was not private. I did tell her to ask for antibiotics as I panicked because we were going on holiday the morning after she told me and assumed she had an infection due to the bleeding.

I've desperately been trying to persuade her to go to a sexual health clinic but she's now refusing to discuss it and I am tearing my hair out. She'll only agree to go to our private doctor. Thank you MrsFinklestein for the advice, I think I will copy and paste it to her, not much more I can do.

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Milklollies · 31/12/2016 11:15

OP, I had a friend who was similarly terrified of going to Sti clinics. I had a call from her mother asking me if I can persuade and accompany her daughter (my friend) to a clinic. Similarly is there anyone you know in common that you can confide in without breaching your daughters' privacy? If she's in london, clinics like 56 dean street and dean street express are very pleasant. They don't seem like the stereotypical Sti clinics and are very classy to say the least. Keep in mind I come from east london so it doesn't take too much to impress me.

Bagina · 31/12/2016 11:20

Personally I'd leave her to it now. She's an adult. She'll be put off sex for life at this rate!

MrsFinkelstein · 31/12/2016 14:47

Aroundtheworld - if she doesn't have any symptoms she won't need examined, to test for chlamydia & gonorrhoea it's just a vaginal swab she takes herself. If that reassures her.

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