dd...embarassing questions.....

[crispyduck]

Leading from the embarassing "Mum what is a vibrator" thread.
Dd is now asking questions about my past sex life and current one with dh.
This morning she asked me
"Do you watch porno when you do it"
"Do you enjoy doing it"
"Do you play music when you want romantic sex"
So embarassed
My poor baby girl is growing up!

erm, how old is she?

I'm all for being open with children about sex, but these questions are going too far. I hope you tell her that there are soem things that should be kept private between husband and wife. By all means go into details of the mechanics of it all.

Is she by any chance trying to wind you up and make you embarrassed, or do you think this is innocent enquiry?

She is 12, nearly 13.
I told her some things are just too personal to ask and she replied, well you did tell me that I can and come and anything...maybe a wind up, I am not sure....

ask me anything[sorry]

yes, she can come and ask anything - doesn't mean you have to answer.

If it isn't something you would talk to another adult about, you have no reason to talk to her about it.

tell her that!

She´s GOT to be winding you up, no one would really want to know these things about their parents´ sex life, at any age! Would they?? I agree that you should just tell her of course she is free to ask but you also have your privacy and won´t always answer. And maybe that you´ll help her to learn what questions are inappropriate!

When I first met my dsd, who was 10 at the time, one of the first things she asked me was "are you and my dad sleeping with each other?" (we were)!!

Don't be embarassed, be honoured that she feels able to discuss things like this with you, and use it as a great opportunity to start a dialogue about what healthy sexuality is. You don't need to tell her about intimate details of your sex life, just say, "Well, I don't think it's appropriate for me to discuss personal sexual details with you, but I'm glad you're coming to me to talk about these things. As long as you keep your questions general, I'm happy to talk to you about anything."

After all, who do you want teaching your daughter about this stuff? The internet? Cosmo? Her mates? Or her loving mother? It's clear she's already finding out all sorts of things about sex, you have the opportunity to frame this knowledge in a healthy context, use it!