Help!! Sons in trouble at school

[Sheiladerring14]

Hi everyone,
I have two sons, DS1s 16 and Ds2 is 13. I don't really know what to do, DS1 is terribly protective of ds2. They've recently both got into trouble at school because some boy started shouting and pushing DS2 and DS1 got in the middle of it and gave the boy a nose bleed. While I'm happy he can watch over his brother, it's turning into a problem. They both got suspended from school. They're very close brothers, they both would do anything for each other and ds2 looks up to him so much. I don't know how to get them less co dependent of each other, I hope someone understands what I'm talking about, thanks everyone.

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you can't change your sons but you can change how you regard this situation

I would nt see it as a problem, it's great they get on so well

Being suspended from school is not ideal but your eldest will live it down, and at least no one will bully your youngest

If I'm honest I'm not sure that I see a huge problem here? Boys can be territorial and it's nice that your sons have a two way respect.

The fighting isn't ideal. But understandable if one son was being bullied.

I'd leave them to it.

I would be proud that my son protected his sibling in this way, bully's are horrible and you may find this has been nipped in the bud.

I get the feeling that this is half a story and Sam may not be all sweetness and light.

Can I suggest you get MNHQ to edit your post, because you have given your sons' names - and as I assume your nickname is your name, I can now work out their full names.

Apologies if I have made an incorrect assumption.

Re. your problem - I think it is good that your sons care about each other - but maybe they need some different tools to use in situations like the one you describe. Sit them down and ask them how they could have handled it without resorting to violence - I assume you are already cracking down on what actually happened, because you know violence is unacceptable.