16 year old dresses like a hooker

[MrsMiniver]

Not all the time but when she goes to parties and clubs (for the under 18s). I have no problems with her, she's doing really well at school, her friends seem ok and we can talk openly about most things. But when she goes on a big night out, everything is on display - tight, micro-short skirts and very low-cut tops. She's got a curvaceous figure and not much is left to the imagination.

She wants my opinion on what she wears and that's great but when she showed me her latest outfit I had to be honest and I told her she didn't look her usual classy self and I was concerned that she'd be attracting the wrong sort of attention. I know she wants my approval so maybe this is enough? Or should I be firmer and not allow her out unless she covers up more?

I think it can be a hard topic as kids want to follow fashions and everybody else or whatever. I just say "no" to midriffs, honestly that's the start of wearing next to nothing I think. Not long after showing their bellies they start showing more than that (cleavage etc). And those really short shorts we just said no to the kids (they don't get it of course but we say no).
IMO it's sad to see girls showing their bodies off to the world (particularly to the older men and young teenage hormone filled boys who are looking). Yes they might just go out and go around the corner and get dressed/changed into something less but someone has to be present in their lives who will at lest tell them or show them what's acceptable and what's not.
So if you're talking skimpy outfits maybe it's time to talk to her about who she's probably advertising herself too (because that's what does happen whether we like it or not). There is a bigger message that goes out in the world than just look at me in my new, fun crazy outfit. Actually, wearing next to nothing inducates sex to the opposite sex (whether we like it or not). I think girls and ladies can look beautiful, stunning, attractive, appealing and everything else in outfits that don't show cleavage or your knicker line, and I don't mean wear a long dress or cover up completely. No.
I do think we have a responsibility to encourage our kids and teens to keep the skimpy outfits for the beach, swimming pool or summer holiday. That's where they belong.

Actually I kind of think if you've got it flaunt it. I would love to wear a mini skirt but the cellulite and flab would ruin the look. Most clothes that appeal to teenagers are barely there, I looked in Topshop (for myself ) but struggled to find anything that wasn't cropped, skin tight or minuscule, same in miss selfridge, river island etc. Why is it unacceptable to show your midriff? I would if I could.

I disagree wearing little clothes means sex that's a bit medieval !

I agree, I don't see what all the fuss is about. I wore mini skirts and crop tops all the time as a teen and felt great. Sometimes my DM made them for me. My DF made the odd comment but didn't fuss. I was brought up to have self esteem etc etc. It did me no harm at all. I've only ever had sex with my DH (yeah, pretty boring eh?!). Wearing sexy clothes didn't make me change my own values. They're just fitting in with fashion. It's no biggie.

Just let her get on with it. She'll look back and cringe.

I think that anyone who hasn't been in this situation with a teenage daughter should think about holding back on the judgemental remarks.

She'll look back and cringe.

Or look back and think how great she looked.

My DM once told me I looked like jailbait when I got dressed to go to a party aged 14.

To be fair (looking back), I did. Gothy, punky, jailbait.

I wouldn't wear it now but I thought I looked great then and was happy to go out dressed like that. She'll grow out of it :) it's one of those things that a lot of teenagers go through I think!

My friend accused his daughter of looking like a hooker and her reply was "I've never played rugby in my life".

To follow on from CD I was envisaging a 16 year old girl wearing a rugby shirt, shorts, knee high socks with mud splashed up them and studded trainers.

Oh i feel a bit sick reading anotherbusymum's comment. It's like those schools in america that send the girls home for having shoulders

Jailbait? Fucking hell. This thread is depressing.

I am properly that in 2016 people still think that wearing skimpy clothes at 16 will put you on the path to delinquency/ lots of sex etc.
Or that it means you are "devaluing" yourself.

When I was a teenage goth someone turned round to my mum and said "I wouldn't let my daughter out like that"......just why??
Why does it matter so much what people wear?

I am a perfectly respectable teacher in my 30's. From 15 to 22ish I was semi naked when I went out to parties. I'm not even remotely embarrassed or ashamed of how I dressed. I'm glad I used the time to dress how I liked and didn't give one single shiny shit about what people thought. My parents never said a word apart from the obligatory,"I can see your bum!" comments in jest. I was sorting some clothes earlier with my mum and came across a handkerchief skirt. I had to keep it for posterity! My mum just laughed and we chatted about it.

I hope to be the same with my daughter.

I had a friend like Timely's dd when I was 16.

She dressed very conservatively, attended church regularly and spent her Saturday evenings babysitting for the none existent children of my neighbour, where upon she would don one of my mini dresses, head to the local under 18's disco and merrily discuss the merits of More magazine's sex position of the fortnight, like all normal 16 yos, before meeting her parents in church the following Sunday, dressed in her sunday best

To this day her parents still know nothing of her secret life. She's relatively normal 32yo woman now.

Also, I had a great figure

I do think we have a responsibility to encourage our kids and teens to keep the skimpy outfits for the beach, swimming pool or summer holiday. That's where they belong.

This is sexist rubbish IMO and also why is it can you dress in one place in skimpy atire and not another and it OK?

So no consistency to skimpy clothing meaning sex

I'm glad my dd only really socialises with friends at school, I pack her bags, go shopping for clothes with her and she's not allowed out by herself.
She's only 12 though, so maybe I'd better watch out over the next few years.

Ha, when I was a teenager in late 60s/early 70s it wasn't just miniskirts but hot pants (which appear to be back in fashion to my astonishment). I'm sure my DPs were relieved that I didn't have the legs for them!

I wish I'd worn more hot pants when I was a teenager. I definitely had the body for them then. Unfortunately it now resembles a wine-bag because of all the wine.

My first non school uniform day at school I left the house wearing jeans and a T-shirt
Then prommptly changes in a mino skirt, see through nettled top and fishnet tights
You can't won with a teen over clothes

Newlife, why is your 12 year old not allowed out on her own?!

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Child protection and risk assessment says has to be accompanied.
When she is at home she sees her best friend but this isn't often tbh.

Back in the 50s, my mum used to walk out of the house wearing her knee length school skirt. She would of course begin rolling said skirt up at the waistband as soon as she rounded the corner.

I would change into short skirts and a skin tight body suit as soon as I got to whichever mates house I was staying over.

It's been going on for donkeys years.