Son smoking wacky backy!

[LillyFlower23]

Hello,

I recently found out that my son who is 18, recently moved to uni has been smoking weed.

This came about when I found a pack of papers that you would roll a spliff with in his jeans pockets then i brought the topic up and asked him, he admitted to it and said him and his best mate had tried it a few times.

I think that he has been chronically smoking it and I am worried that he is going to mess up his degree and life.

I have noticed some worrying signs; he has a short fuse when I am messaging him, he has lost a lot of weight over the past five months, he is going out all the time and drinking, behind disrespectful of myself and my husband.

I have a family member who suffers from mental health issues and smoked it when he was younger and sadly he took his life a few years ago, I really don't want this to happen to my son.

I discussed this with my husband and we both want him to take a blood test to see if he has been smoking it.

He told me that after our conversation and I told him about the family member and he was upset and gave me his word that he wouldn't smoke it but I don't believe him at all.

I noticed some signs that he was stoned; his eyes were heavy, speaking slow and messing around with our dog and being angry. ( he says he was hung over after a night out but...)

What do you think guys I am really worried about him

Bump

hi i've a 16 yr old that smokes all the time despite our best efforts, all i can say is when he is stoned he tends not to get angry, that comes the next morning when he is coming off the high. he is usually mellow, which isnt like him and he eats us out of house and home (the munchies).

are you sure its just weed?

we have tried lost to get him to stop and he has taken other substances which as a result of his behaviour while on a mixture of things means he may be spending Christmas in prison, we will find out on the 22nd. there isnt much you can do to stop them, i've learnt that the hard way, he has to want to stop smoking it.

ask why he started? what does he get out of it?
has going to uni stressed him? is he coping ok away from home?
if the weed smoking is new since then it could just be him experimenting with things.

i know my son had a made experience in his first 2 weeks of uni where 2 guys tried to mug him( he does martial arts so it didnt work out so well for them). it shook him up for a while and as a result i dont think he is enjoying uni like id hoped he would

i dont think ive been much help but good luck xxx