16 yr old dd came home drunk at tea time. Don't know where to go with it. WWYD

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She was at her mates all afternoon, I came home to find her at the tea table obviously worse for wear. She said she'd been drinking cider when cornered about it.

Left most of he tea she had specifically requested earlier in the day, and went to bed. I wasn't best pleased.

Punish or leave it?

You are lucky she has got to 16 and hasn't already done this !
Leave it, and have a sensible talk tomorrow about responsible drinking.

Leave it if it's the first time this has happened but maybe have a v calm non accusatory chat in a couple of days to find out what happened?

Just leave it.

Or you could decide to hoover the bedrooms out first thing.

I've never met a 16 yr old who didn't get drunk. It could be worse.

Leave it.

Don't make a massive deal about it but have a chat about not getting wasted. It's not unusual for 16 year olds to drink. Cider is a classic- takes me back!

I drank from the age of 14 but not loads and my parents knew. I knew they knew and this made me not want to get too drunk.

Try and strike a balance between 'I don't approve' and. 'I know you're going to though, so just take it easy'. Open up a discussion about the risks of getting too drunk.

Point and laugh

Let her think she is going to get a bollocking. But don't deliver one.

Hoover noisily tomorrow and cook something really smelly

I meant to add, she's going to feel so bad. Which is its own punishment. Any further telling off will just make her resentful and drive it underground.

You want her to look back on this and remember feeling shit, not cross that she got a telling off for something 'everyone does' which, to be fair, most teens have.

So glad came to ask the mumsnet voice of reason!

She was up at 1am, in the bathroom guzzling water. I popped my head round to see who it was, and said, hangover?

Thanks all

just because 'everyone does it' which I doubt, doesn't make it a skanky thing to do.

maximise suffering, punish and then have a few words about self-esteem and self-respect. Swilling to this state really is dirty.

Don't be so ridiculous! You don't punish a 16 yr old for getting drunk, they're not little children and you certainly don't come down heavy on them for making a mistake. It's called growing up...teens do stupid things on occasion. I take it you were this mythical perfect teen who waited until they were 18 and had a sensible drink once a year with their parents at Christmas?

Skanky indeed

A skanky thing to do? Dirty? Seriously? The OP hasn't said she was lying in a pool of vomit, just that she'd obviously had too much to drink!

How was she this morning?

She was fine on Monday morning thank you. Think she slept from about 6 Sunday evening, apart from the trip to the bathroom to rehydrate herself about 1 a.m.

I don't get hungover, never have. I'm 25 now but I'm pretty sure I got accidentally drunk on cider at around 16 too. I was fine one minute, then totally gone.

Don't overreact.

She was just at her mates in the next street. She was safe thanks, it was the afternoon.