my son is 12 nearly 13 arghhhhhhh advise please

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my son is 12 nearly 13 and is driving me mad with his atittude he is rude sulky breaks stuff and has an answer for everything

God Noddy you need a medal (or even a Noddy badge!!!)

We have been through that phase, where it is always our house that is invaded. However the last few months, they have moved to other terratory.

Your turn will come!

I wish my turn to see ds's friends would come!

I am getting really curious. It's such a change from our small, friendly primary school where I knew most parents by their face (even though I only did the morning drop off). I have never met another parent, let alone another child, from my son's school as yet.

Good luck, Noddy. Get them playing the drums now so they will tire of them before bedtime!

Glad I found this thread! DS1 is 13 in May.
Do your sons fight with their dads more than with you? I sometimes feel like the United Nations peacekeeping force around here, negotiating and explaining each other's point of view. It's like they are two stags facing up to each other sometimes, over the silliest things.

Oh yes Libra
It's known as the Alpha Male - I remember reading something similar on MN before - and it helps me understand

Think of it as a male lion and his cub. The male lion thinks he is the King of the jungle and as the cub grows bigger and older he decides he wants to be King. The male lion resents the cheeky little cub taking over his territory and everytime he sees the cub inching nearer he swipes at him with his paw!

Mmm. So presumably they will eventually either rip each other to pieces or DS1 will go off to start a new pride.
Nice to know that I married an Alpha Male though, just like Mills and Boon said I should!

I've definitely experienced the problem with my 2 DSs and their father. I call him the "old greyback" as they are all like apes, trying to be King of the Jungle. They argue with him and are very rude - calling him an idiot. However, the idiot comes into his own when maths/physics/chemistry is a problem or when the bike needs repairing etc etc. I presume I would have similar problems if we had DDs.

Do your boys challenge each other as well? DS2 is only 4 so I don't think the problem will arise in our house, but I imagine that once DS1 comes out of this phase, DS2 will enter it. I am facing over 12 years of teenage behaviour!

Oh yes ds1 is always muttering 'idiot' under his breath at dh

There are 5 years between my two ds's and I have to say they mainly get on very well. Ds1 acts like a mother hen towards ds2 and it is quite sweet to see and shows he can have a caring side to him underneath all those hormones

That's nice. DS1 is caring of DS2 as well, and has recently discovered another use for him. Girls like little four year-olds who are cute, and therefore can be enticed to the house to 'come and see my little brother'. DS2 is happy to be used in this way, but then doesn't understand it when DS1 wants him to go away...