Proud of DS Thread

[Drew64]

Our DS has been talking to a girl he met through school friends online, Skype.
She lives with her parents in Dubai (Expats)
They have met, earlier this year. They were back in the uk for a few weeks on holiday.
They have really taken a shine to each other (smitten)

Our DS turns 16 in December and he did want everyone to give him money for his birthday and Christmas so he could buy himself a gaming PC but he's not changed his mind.
He said he wants the money to go out to Dubai to gee his GF, how sweet it that!

So DW and I have had a long chat, we've spoken to her parents and have now booked him on a flight shortly after he breaks up for Christmas.

I'm so proud of the sacrifice he is making.

Oh all teenage boys on MN are sex mad usual. That's a given. All the pearl clutching about mixed sleepovers.

Well, the OP was bad enough but then true colours came through with the 'fuckwitsnet' comment.

I have a daughter who will be 14 in a couple of months. If there was a 16 year old boy wanting to fly from another country to stay with her I'd be pretty fucking 'no way'.

And as for giving up a gaming pc to go to Dubai being a 'sacrifice'. Think you need to look up the word 'sacrifice', mate.

Bit odd to call a site you post on yourself 'fuckwitsnet'.

Erm on a promise or not, I have massive issues with a 16 year old calling a 14 year old his girlfriend actually no it's not the age, it's the fact theyve never met, holy shit, you've just paid for your son to fligh for 8 hours to go some where he knows know one to meet 14 year old! See 2 years isn't a big age gap but it's one that may cause your son to get in to massive amounts of trouble! And I hugely appricate there maybe year 9s dating year 11, still I'm not sure that's ok.
Prehaps you your wife and the girls parents should look in the mirror calling people fuck wits!
It's not a sacrifice whatsoever I'm really not sure I'd be proud

lol

Fwiw i dont think this is about him on a promise i just think its a daft infact stupid idea

HelenFWNHQ

Ok say your son isn't on a promise, he's not interested in having sex with a girl he fancies, (ermm the raging ball of hormones that is sixteen year old boys) say that is the case that he's been brought up to respect women by his respectful father (who just called a predominantly female site fuckwits). Ok.
Your son, who on many airlines has only just been allowed to fly alone is flying to the middle East, 8 hours on his own, 2 hours airside on his own, what if his flight is delayed? How does he know which is the right gate? What if he puts his passport down and mislays it, what if he's used as a drugs carrier?
Does none of this concern you?
When he gets there, what then?! He's never met this girl or her family? Are they who they say they are?! Is she really 14, she could be 13 or 19 or anywhere inbetween. 13 seriously that could cause problems, 19 how would you feel about a 19 year old with your son?!
You say you'll be there to pick up the pieces, no you won't you'll be several thousends miles/8 hours away.
What if he falls out with this girl and her family?!

Prehaps your proud of your son for having an adventure. That's the only level I can see it.
He really hasnt done anything for the greater good or sacrifuced anything he's swapped an expensive thing for an expensive holiday.
Proud for going to a 14 year old girl, you know what no I'm not sure that's something to he proud of even if he isn't assuming he's on a promise.

We're the fuckwits?! Not sure you've totally thought this little adventure through!

I hate the way people talk about teenage boys on here too. They aren't all Neanderthals. That's not why I think it's a bad idea.

I don't think it's a great idea either, but a lot of posters don't seem to have noticed that OP said these kids have indeed met. Posters are prone to making up their own narratives here.

Posters are prone to making up their own narratives here.

And all over MN, as has been the case forever.

Met online via Skype . Not the same as met. Would you,let a 16 year old girl go to a family in Dubai under these circumstances?

They have met, earlier this year. They were back in the uk for a few weeks on holiday.

Op did say they had actually met. Not that it changes much WRT the Christmas trip.

Well OP has disappeared after calling the site fuckwitsnet and in a couple of month's time that poor, poor boy will be off to Dubai to stay with the 14 year old who may or may not have changed her mind. And either way on his return will not have a gaming PC.

DS (14) and his mates are all mad about gaming but they're even more obsessed with girls. It's all they talk about except the one who recently came out as gay

i don't think that being obsessed with girls makes them Neanderthal.

DS1 has a girlfriend but he's not obsessed, I am not sure he's a great boyfriend TBH. FIFA16 seems to have taken on a huge importance.

I think DS and his mates would be less obsessed if they did have girlfriends Sparkling

It's jolly nice that you're proud of your DS, I'm sure he's lovely in many ways. But I'm not sure why you'd think that anyone would pat you on the back for letting him go abroad to see his girlfriend instead of getting a computer. He's swapping one luxury for another. He's not giving his Christmas money to Shelter or something.

Probably when they do get a girlfriend they will realise that their obsession was misplaced and they are very hard work.