Found plan b in daughter's room. What to do now?

[teatimeandtantrums]

Hi all,
I'm a newbie here, so please bear with me!
Today, I was putting clothes by in dd's room, she is 16. I opened one of the drawers to put socks away and at the bottom seen something sticking out. I rummaged around and pulled out a box of the morning after pill. I looked inside and there was none in it,. This was about an hour ago and I am shocked and feel physically sick to my stomach.
Dd has being going out with her boyfriend for 5ish months now and they spend a lot of time with each other. I've always been open to her and made it very clear that she can approach me with any question or problem she may have. I guess in a sense I was being naive in thinking that she wouldn't have sex just yet.

She is currently at hockey practice and will be home in an hour, I would really appreciate some advice on how to tackle this. I realise i can't stop her having sex but surely I have the right to know and ensure that she is being safe and using protection?

Many thanks :)

Glad you got is sorted out OP. She sounds like a sensible lass.

Glad you got it sorted,

I don't see how they're "our" options instead of hers but hey ho.

Would have to say at 16 I was doing my own laundry and Id be pissed if you went through my draws m

She is legally allowed to do this so you shouldn't be worried about that.
Also she is probably to nervous to tell you this so put it back and pretend that nothing has happened. Wait for her to tell you so she is comfortable with it.

'But I would be really disappointed if this was my daughter.'

Why? People have sex and enjoy it, even 16-year-olds.

I don't understand the 'it's none of your business' brigade

Me neither Possum.

People of 16 can enjoy sex if they want to. Doesn't mean that I have to approve of it. And certainly not if it was going on under my roof. I know I am totally outvoted here!

Of all the things to be disappointed in a child, that they are having sex. Wow, that's a charmed life.

She took precautions, and then was sensible and mature enough to get a back up when there was a problem.

I would be very proud of my dd for being so sensible and approaching sex in an adult manner.

nothing to be disappointed in anyone about.

where would you rather they go viviennemary, a cold bus shelter?

Ssd- that is challenging.
I thought viviennemary 's posts were good. No one is a supporter of bus stop sex and for probably very complex reasons viv would not want 16 year olds 'enabled' to have sex in her house. I agree with that.

Awful for Teatime to stumble upon that MAP knowledge.

Once kids engage in sexual relationships the risks in their lives step up a gear. What I see is that my teens aren't that clued up/mature about being able to cope with consequences of risk taking. One of mine is so upset by gossip and being tal?ed about and that is less problematic than other issues in sleeping with a boy at school. I coach my lot gently and listen. One talk outcome is: your bf /gf isn't allowed to spend time in your bedroom.

So I too, do not want teen sex in my house.
For one thing, they might have more fun in my house than me! That can't be fair.