This is my first post having been a long time lurker.
My daughter is 16 and in a serious relationship with her boyfriend who is just under two years older. They have been together for about four months, although were best friends for a long time before that, and appear to be very loving and committed to each other, and want a future together. I suspected that they may have begun a sexual relationship, or were at least planning on it, so one evening I confronted her about it and she told me that they had. I was shocked as I didn’t believe she would have done this so young, as this is not the way I believe I have brought her up. She was always such a sensible young girl who spent time with her friends and family and worked hard on her hobbies and education. I am so disappointed in her lack of morals. I brought her up to act more responsibly than this.
I feel like having taken this path into such an adult relationship at such a young age it will be damaging to her future and to her education, meaning she will not reach her full potential. Is it right to think this? I have told her that she must go and see a GP or sexual health nurse, not necessarily with me, and get herself on the pill as well as using condoms to ensure the most protection and safety from STDs and Pregnancy. I have pressed upon her my views that she is too young and should wait until she is 18 when she can be physically and emotionally ready for such a relationship, as I feel she is far too young and should wait until the end of her education. I have made my feelings clear that I disagree with the path she has taken, but she has said she is 16 and in love so it is her right to do what she feels best. I know that her and her boyfriend are very much in love and I do like her boyfriend as he is a polite and caring young gentleman, however I do not agree with their choice to not wait and have made that clear. What do other people think? Am I being too severe?
My daughter has also asked if she can go away for a couple of nights with her boyfriend, as they would like to get away from stresses they have faced at home. They also think it will be good for when said boyfriend goes away to university next year and she wants to go and visit for some nights. I have positively refused this suggestion, as I cannot give her permission to have sex for three days straight in a hotel room. She has claimed they want to spend some time relaxing and exploring wherever they may go, however I know this is what they want to do and I do not want to allow it. I have told her that I will not let her go away with her boyfriend until she is 18 and moves out for university, as I do not agree with what they are doing and how they have handled their relationship. Is this the right thing to do?
I am not too sure how to handle the situation in the best way, so am open to opinions and suggestions. She seems to think I don't love or care about her but I don't think I have done anything wrong 
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