DS likes his friend

[Lovetheleaves]

DS who is doing a levels in 2016 is debating asking his friend out. She is in same year and they have been friends for years. I'm worried this will harm the dynamics of his group as he doesn't know if she feels the same. I told him to be careful as it could ruin a friendship.
Now he didn't willingly offer all this info but we on way back from rugby practice in a dark car and it kind of got mentioned. He swore me to secrecy.
Do I remain quiet about it to him and let him make up his own mind or mention again not to rock the friendship. I don't want to see him hurt and also he has 2 important school years ahead.

You're going to have to leave him too it. He probably wouldn't listen to you anyway. I would suggest to him he gets to the 'talking' stage first before asking her out. Teens have different levels , this is the stage before 'seeing' them. It's the flirty stage. After 'seeing' them (seeing if you really get on, doing everything you do when going out without officially being bf/gf) comes going out stage. If she flirts back he will know she is prob quite interested and can move onto seeing stage. This is how they do it , honest ! Tell him to do it subtly rather than jumping in with both feet. Just so he doesn't look a numpty if it falls flat. I nearly went cross eyed when It was explained to me !!

Personally, I wouldn't mention it again. I don't think teenagers refrain from relationships because of important school years. I think you'll have to let him make his own mind up.

I know , I was even surprised it came up in a general chat. Will wait and see how it pans out. Thanks