DS.....Beaten and humiliated

[claire4141]

We held a birthday party for dd at best friends restaurant, all going well, until, ds (15) appears battered, briused and very tearful (not like him),apparently, best friends ds (18)had pinned him down and would not let him up and causing briusing to neck from pushing on pressure point and bruising to ribs, this happened in front of huge gang of ds school friends, therefore ds didnt want to go today, but has, though worried about the fact he cried in front of them all. The beating was pretty grim and ds very shaken. The problem I face is dh very angry and wants to deal with it, but its best friends son, and via text is telling different story, dont want to have big fall outs, but as bruising is plain to see, friends son not telling truth.

Claire, hope meeting was ok with your friend and your ds is feeling better x

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Meeting went pretty badly as DS was more interested in football, did not want to talk and would not co operate in any way, he was very cross, but, I felt the situation needed sorting. I think he would rather have tried to forget all about it. Both boys came out with different stories so situation not resolved. DS now thinks I dont believe him, have insisted I do. Feel better for being able to put our point across to friends DS, he was extremly sorry and swore he didnt mean to hurt DS, Hey ho perhaps we shall never know. Your replies have been very reassuring and thanks for mentioning first posts, I was really shocked and wished I hadn`t gone online but after tonights replies am more confident.

Hey Mumblechum, Whats "bump" ?

I'm so glad you're more reassured about the situation now, Claire.

I just wanted to comment that I was one of the first posters on this thread, and I still stand by what I said in relation to your OP.

Your OP stated that your son was "battered, bruised and very tearful", and that he had bruising to his neck and ribs. You also stated that "the beating was pretty grim and ds very shaken" and that the bruising was plain to see.

That was all the info I had to comment on at the time I posted, and I don't think my comments were unreasonable in relation to the OP, but I apologise if you were offended or hurt by my comments - it just sounded so shocking that your son had been viciously attacked by this 18 year old.

I hope you and friends can sort this situation out, and that your son is happy with the resolution.

Hi Claire

"Bump" is when somone just posts somethign to put a thread back into active convos. Some people just put a full stop.

I am sorry your DS feels you didn't believe him. I am sure you can reassure him over the next few days that far from you not believing him, you were poised to get the police involved but thought that, on balance, it was best to try and talk/sort it amongst yourselves.

Hopefuuly the other boy will have had a fright.

however - if it happens again I would get police involved as soon as. You have given the other guy the benefit of th doubt but he should only get that once.

I know a lot of posters felt that at 18 he is an adult (and yes in a court of law he would be tried as such) but an 18 yr old mucking about/showing off with some 15 yr olds is possibly going to be being a bit dumb. Whether it was malicious or not only time will tell.

You will also be able to tell a lot about what happened by the way your DS and this other guy interact in the future.

"be acting a bit dumb" sounds better than "be being a bit dumb"!!!