Do you allow teenagers to have sex under your own roof?

[Tappergirl]

I have 2 step children who live with us, girl of 18 and boy of 16. This is however not a step parenting issue. I work close to home and often pop home at lunchtime. SD had said she was going out with BF today (she has finished college now), but clearly they were up in her room when I went home at 1pm. The house was quiet so I though I was alone until I heard movement upstairs in her room, and a "foreign" pair of shoes downstairs.

Is it just me or does anybody else feel uncomfortable about teenagers having sex in your own home, whether they are bio or step children?

I know both of them are old enough (SS has a girlfriend who comes to visit occasionally) but I don't really agree with it happening, especially when husband and I are not there. Am I being a prude?

Yep, teenagers can be tricky things.....hard to say anything without knowing the back story really. Hope you can all come to some kind of compromise

Then the sex angle is irrelevant. You could find any old thing as a reason to find fault with her.

Only 3 months to bite your tongue.

Ah! I remember you. You have two dogs dont you?

How does she feel about you and your husband having sex when she is in?

Being devils advocate here...

Wtf ( no pun intended) Marni does that matter ?

Op and her partner are in a committed 'adult' relationship

They are not the teenagers here. Big difference IMO

No, I don't have a problem if they are in a relationship and having safe sex.

The 18 year old could be having a committed adult relationship too, MissMilbanke.

Well she is 18 and providing her partner is aswell then it is an adult relationship. As for committed, you arent really best placed to know that, not being the either party of the couple in question and all that.

Xpost with bowlers. My comment was to missmilbanke

I haven't had a problem with our DC having sex with their regular bf/gf in our home. My home, DH's home and their home too. Our DC are now 23 and 20.

I would much rather know that they are safe in their own home having sex than in the local park or somewhere worse.

I am pleased that they feel comfortable enough in our home to bring back their bf/gf and encourage them to be part of our family.

However, I don't think this is just about the sex thing. You state you don't like her so I guess you just generally resent her presence in the family home. That is a shame. Must be awful for her. You say that she takes liberties - all teenagers do.

"My ds1 is 22 and has been with his gf for 4 years, they have only just started sharing a bed at home. I didn't want to give dd aged 10 the wrong message."

What wrong message is that?

If its the poster i'm thinking of then the DCs live with OP due to their mother having mental health issues. Could be wrong.

Mines 19 and I've always said we will talk about it when hes in a long term relationship. It's not happened yet and he doesn't seem bothered by the rule

Step kid or not, whether I like her or not, has nothing to do with my feelings about being taken advantage of. She still acts like a child so I see her as one, and my opinion still stands about having teenagers having sex in the parental home. Some of your comments are particularly offensive, especially from MarnieRose. I am married fgs, been together for 10 years. I will have sex in my own home when we both wish to, I see it as our right. We don't throw it in their faces and are not embarrassing old people. We are surely entitled to some rights within the sanctity of our marriage?

Her home is here, or should I say hotel...

Yep- poster i was thinking of. OP didnt you decide to leave your husband a few months ago because you just couldnt cope with your step children being in the house? You resent having to make adjustments to your home to accommodate them and wish your husband had never taken them on when their mother had a breakdown. You will also probably become more and more abusive as this thread progresses and your alcohol intake increases. Right?

If I knew my step mum didn't like me I'd say f* you to her petty rules!

So if you had got home from work at lunch time and she had brought a friend round, theyd had a bit of lunch then gone up to her room ti watch a movie, would you still be as uptight about it?

Poor girl.not even able to have someone round for a bit of lunch.

Stop you are very argumentative and sound like a rather unpleasant person. No that wasn't me. Infact, I only recently returned from helping the local fire and rescue crew to act as a car crash victim, and being cut out of a car on a training drill they do. It was pretty traumatic, but I feel like I am giving something back to the community, and that was such a great feeling. So that's me, how about you?

Yep definitely you. Your posting style is a dead giveaway.

They could try. But there isn't much space in my loft.

I think the rest of you have been increasing your alcohol intake