Why does my 16 year old daughter hate me?? :(

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There is absolutely NOTHING I can do right in my daughter's eyes, yet my husband is Mr Nice Guy and she totally adores him!

DD has become very opinionated and I only have to make a joke (which any normal person would find funny!) and she gets furious and starts giving me lectures on how what I said is totally wrong! I understand that all teenagers think they know it all, but why is she so negative towards me??? We even had a row over cereal last night!!!! Arrgghhhhh!!!!!!

The nicest text I've had of late is "what's for dinner?" !!!!

Anyone else feel my pain???

My oldest is 17 and definitely mostly out of the other side but still has moments of attitude, mostly when she's stressing about A levels or when her younger sister annoys her.

The thing is she is a volunteer at youth club, has been for four years and the praise heaped on her is amazing. She's so good with the kids. And she works in a public facing job which she is doing very well, really polite, good with kids etc.

I guess I am her safe place when she needs to unload. I've found counting to three hundred ten helps, not getting into arguments over petty stuff, not engaging in shouting matches too often and listening to her really helped.