Loss of parental control is already in the children's act 1989 as a reason to begin intervention - you don't need to threaten abandonment or shouldn't bloody well have to in order to get some bloody help
As I said I really don't understand why preventative services aren't top priority instead of leaving people in limbo and at the end of their tether.
If you hit dd, and this is aimed at both of you, ( couthymow too) they would be taken into care but you would be 'an abuser' even if it was noted you'd reached the end of your rope or had hit in response to being hit.
This is so wrong I can't even begin to work it out or justify it.
I recently had a problem where my dd got a job an didn't tell me, no, actively HID it from me.
She shows no remorse or understanding of how I'm cross at being deceived for so long, plus the fact I could have owed a lot of money out.
If I try to talk to her about anything past 'how was your day' and gets angry, then tearful/frustrated,
I fear for her future. Often I have visions of being so fucking frustrated with her I could slap and shake her. Obviously I wouldn't do this, but you can't help feelin it. And it's because I'm afraid of how things are going to be for her.
Also believe and have from when she was taken, that she has aspergers. I can't force her to go to the doctors. Encouragement has been met with disgust and refusal. If she had been diagnosed when I asked, all those years ago, almost ten years in fact, things could be so different.
The SS have ways to jump waiting lists and other hoops, gaining access to services that simply don't exist to joe public, they just don't fucking bother to use them.
They let children in care down, like once they have them, they can't be arsed any more, or their thinking is as long as they're away from parents, that's the end of that.
Then those kids act out and say, have a baby, the baby gets removed from their care, no wonder the SS are accused of 'baby trafficking' when people don't see they have done anything to help the vulnerable yp, just taken the resulting baby.
I'm so torn here because I can see you guys at the end of your tether, but know the world of crap your kids will be enterin once they're involved with SS. And it's far reaching consequences which may even affect grandchildren and further. This always makes me want to scream 'don't do it, do whatever you can to stop them being taken'
What a shit situation.