14yo DD - a sobbing, hormonal mess. Any tips or advice please

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DD is just 14, started her periods a couple of months ago.

Period started again yesterday and she is just a sobbing mess this morning .

I think part of it is she didn't eat much last night so was feeling a bit light headed and weird when she got up (incidentally its the first time she's got up before 9am on a day off for ages -normally she has to be virtually dragged out of bed late morning!). She's also an emetophobe so part of it might have been worry or panic that she was going to be sick.

I've talked to her about periods, hormones etc and how they can leave you feeling like this but is there anything else I can do to help her?

Any vitamins or supplements available to help balance her?

Vitamin B6 and evening primrose oil help me massively. I still take them. Pop into Holland & Barrett

Would the pill help at all? Not sure if it just helps heavy periods or if if can help hormones.

Thanks both.

I think the pill would probably be more for heavy or problematic painful periods but the Vit B6 and EPO might be options. I'll look into that after Xmas.

I don't think it helps that there's nothing to her, she's always been so skinny. I'm wondering if that's making things worse too.

At least she's stopped sobbing now - I sent her back to bed to read and relax after she had breakfast and she's now showered, dressed and had lunch so feeling more human.

A Multi-vitamin and mineral supplement for women of child-bearing age would help.

A few drops of lavender oil in the bath always helps my hormonal DD 15yrs. It may well be psychological, but I don't care if it makes her feel better!

eating properly would be better than junky supplements. She is old enough to understand that she needs to take care of herself, and that means food.

the pill can also help PMT.

Eating properly and having supplements with a regular sleep pattern would be the way to go.

the pill for a 14YO who has just started her periods seems a bit drastic.

Geranium oil is good for hormones.

My DD2 can get like this is she is over tired.

Low carbs or low energy levels and periods are not a good combination.

Try at least trying to get her to eat bananas, weetabix or munch on some oatcakes - she needs some complex slow burn carbs, and probably some paracetemol, to lighten the mood sightly.

DD favours honey sandwiches and a large glass of milk as her comfort - and tries to avoid 'quick sugar fixes' like chocolate, fizzy drinks etc in the few days leading up to her period - any fast bursts of sugar especially on an empty stomach make the PMT like WW3.

Vitamin B and primrose oil have made a difference to dd. But I'd go to a nutritionist if you can and talk about her diet in general.

Feminax is wonderful stuff for the first and second day.

And they do improve when they are steadier. dd started young and the first few periods were very erratic, and very hormonal. Once her cycle regulated, it became much easier.

Thank you everyone. I'll take a look at what you've mentioned and have a chat with DD about it after the Xmas chaos is over.

Diet-wise - we do eat good, nutritious homemade food on the whole. Very rarely have what I'd call convenience food.

DD does have a tendency to not eat much for breakfast though but I remember being like that at her age. She also has a leaning towards snacking on sweet stuff but I don't mind that too much if she's eaten proper food at mealtimes. Shes so skinny that she needs the calories (again, just like me at that age). Obviously though I'd prefer she got them through healthier means.