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Teenagers

Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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please explain why my teens do this and add your own drive you crazy moments...

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FunInTheSunD · 25/11/2013 19:31

My DS 15 drives my crazy because he walks about in just his boxers and moans he's cold...
I put their tea in front of them and DD 17 says... is it hot???
They both ask whats for tea... (its actually written on a white board in the kitchen) I tell them... then they ask me again at least twice before I start to cook it....

And I buy food on a Saturday and if I don't hide some of it they eat it all by Sunday night... does anyone else have to hide food from their teen

Please tell me what your teen does that drives you crazy and we'll see if we can analyse their behaviour between us...

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louby44 · 25/11/2013 21:18

DS14 won't put his dirty washing in the washing basket, on Friday he went to school in dirty clothes (with a great deal of Lynx sprayed on). I refuse to pick up any more dirty clothes, the basket is less than a metre from his room. It is plain laziness...or maybe he knows how much it drives me mad!!

Xfirefly · 25/11/2013 21:34

don't have teens yet but I used to rarely put my ironing away , it would get buried or dropped onto the floor and then probably back in the wash because I'd creased it my mum used to go mad. this was early teens ...I soon learnt my lesson when mum made me do washing and ironing

breadandbutterfly · 25/11/2013 22:12

My dd wishes me to get her uniform that is specifically not allowed and incidentally makes her look like an underaged hooker (short, tight, lycra skirts). Apparently, I am being deeply unreasonable in refusing to buy this, as clearly every mother's dream is for their dd to get detentions combined with attention from spotty under-aged Adonises on the bus (or worse still, adult letches).

She is also apparently incapable of remembering her food tech ingredients need to be bought until about 10pm the night before food tech - oh, and this is my fault too.

That's just for this evening.

Areyoumymummysnet · 25/11/2013 22:44

I lose her Spanish/biology/maths homework. ON PURPOSE. (it's in her bag/room/the sofa where she left it.

brass · 25/11/2013 22:52

And I buy food on a Saturday and if I don't hide some of it they eat it all by Sunday night.

This! They are like locusts.

Travelledtheworld · 26/11/2013 05:53

xfirefly.
Yes. DD 15 rarely puts clean clothes away and eventually put them back in the laundry basket all crumpled but clean.

DwellsUndertheSink · 26/11/2013 06:01

I charge mine 50p per clean item in the laundry basket. he still manages to wear more than everyone else, even though I rarely see him out of school uniform? But he'll wear something for an hour or two and then its on the floordrobe until its been walked over enough times and hey presto, its in the basket. so "technically" not clean.

Likes to roll his shirt sleeves up really high, to show off the guns. Even though this has got him detention 4 or 5 times already this year, he keeps doing it.

nooka · 26/11/2013 06:10

My teens do their own washing so I'm not very involved (actually I was never really involved as washing is dh's department) but it's a regular occurrence that they run out of clothes. ds will then refuse to get dressed and get incredibly grumpy if anyone else is already using the machine and he has to wait. dd on the other hand just borrows steals all my clothes, which then join the washing heap until I've nothing to wear too...

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FunInTheSunD · 26/11/2013 06:41

breadandbutter... my friends DD does exactly the same thing...

I can't believe they have so many problems related to the washing of clothes. .. I mean how hard do they have to make it. ..
On that note though... my DD had a habit of leaving her dirty knickers/leggings on her bedroom floor and then came in my room to pinch mine, I couldn't work out where they had all gone. ..this kept happening..it all came to a head one day when we both had none to wear... I had a lock put on my door then.. not what I wanted but I felt I had no choice. .

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Sparklingbrook · 26/11/2013 06:59

We have dressing gown (not tied) on top of boxers here.

I think parenting teens and toddlers is exactly the same TBH.

louby44 · 26/11/2013 18:21

I wouldn't dare let my boys do their own washing. They would was one thing at a time on the longest setting. I'm afraid I need to have some/all control of the washing for a couple of more years yet.

But yes I too find myself in Sainsburys at 7.30am buying bizarre food items and defending myself with 'missing' homework. We have a permanent pile of books/scraps of paper/handouts on the side in the kitchen which gets larger and larger as the week goes on. I'm dreading next September when DS10 goes to secondary school. The pile will be even bigger!

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FunInTheSunD · 27/11/2013 06:11

We had similar with the cooking louby44 but ours was at 11pm at night. .. I spent a fortune on ingredients, then DD and her friends would eat whatever she'd cooked at school.

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MrsBright · 27/11/2013 08:40

I love the 'YOU did it' accusations - some of them are priceless.

The 'but you didnt remind me' is my current favourite. I'm going to try not cooking tea one night 'because she didnt remind me'.

thefirstmrsrochester · 27/11/2013 08:54

After showering, heap the wet towels on the bed then whinge that their beds are wet.
Amazing the number of books/forms/PE kits/musical instruments i've forgotten.
The weeks worth of packed lunch stuff often scoffed within 24 hours of purchase.
Litter being tossed in the general direction of the bin as near the bin is as good as in the bin according to my dc.
Basically what everyone else has already said. Sigh.

ithaka · 27/11/2013 09:03

I have 2 daughters. Therefore, I have no unladdered tight in my tights drawer,ever. I have to hide new tights in obscure places.

Eastwickwitch · 27/11/2013 11:07

Apparently that pile of clean/ironed/dirty clothes on the floor is called a Floordrobe.
never seen one in Ikea though

TantrumsAndBalloons · 27/11/2013 11:14

Ds1 thinks that boxers and a dressing gown is appropriate attire for any occasion. However, ask him to go to the shop, which is at the end of our road or to walk the dog and he disappears upstairs and takes 15 minutes to "get ready"

In case he sees someone he knows. God forbid he is seen outside wearing lonsdale tracky bottoms.

NoComet · 27/11/2013 11:21

Yes tights get knicked and shoes end up soaking wet under the trampoline. Just because you can't find your own Crocs (used as garden capable slippers here) or trainers there is no need to lose mine too!

Towels?!?!
The radiator in the bathroom comes on with the hot water even in summer. Why? Therefore do my DDs think
towels dry better in a heap on the floor than on the rail above said radiator

ithaka · 27/11/2013 15:35

Oh, I've thought of another one - hairbrushes. There must be hundreds in the house somewhere. A teenager will never be able to find her hairbrush, so will borrow mine, so I can't find my hairbrush, teenager then cannot find hairbrush she borrowed and will ask for mine and there are no longer any hairbrushes. Roar - they can be so annoying.

And yes to wet towels, clothes on floor and especially & top annoyance - clean washing in the dirty linen basket. That one sends my DH so apoplectic it is scary, but teenage girls have a special super power of being utterly oblivious to enraged parents.

Sparklingbrook · 27/11/2013 15:38

Same here Tantrums. It's DS1's paper round tonight-he will have to decide what he's wearing.

I may suggest he does it in boxers and dressing gown combo.

DwellsUndertheSink · 27/11/2013 16:02

yy to boxer shorts and dressing gown. and even more yes to the bloody hairbrushes. I actually chained mine to the mirror stand at one point. Dyed her hair recently - hair dye on the wall, on 2 (!!) of my nice fluffy new towels. Grrrr.

And towels...our record is 9 on the bedroom floor.

FeetUpUnitilChristmas · 27/11/2013 16:35

Mine have just come in from school.

1 has helped themselves to a packet of crisps and a sandwich as she hasn't eaten all day and disappeared to her pit.
The other is currently starving so making a tuna may sandwich, so far I have bought the wrong mayo (it's the one we have used for the past umpteen years), and she has tipped tuna and juice all over the sink, but the sponges are too 'manky' for her to use to clear up.
At least it's only Wednesday so there is some food left in the house (delivery comes on a Monday), although tomorrow I have to go and buy cakes for one of them to take in to class, I have banned cake making as I can't cope with the mess they make.

I refuse to go in their rooms or bathroom, I will do their washing if it is sorted and put on the heaps on my bedroom floor (on wash day) otherwise they have to do their own.

Fortunately we are all different shapes and sizes plus apparently I have absolutely no fashion sense so my clothes don't go missing.

However my GHDs, hairbrushes, nail clippers, tweezers and expensive nail polish keep growing legs and leaving my room never to return, they are never borrowed by either DD, so either my husband (no hair) has a secret or we have a ghost.

DD2 thinks that suitable attire is a onsie, but needs at least 30 minute warning if she is to leave the house.

Sparklingbrook · 27/11/2013 17:02

I picked DS1 up from the school bus stop. he said 'i am going to go straight out and deliver the paper as soon as we get home'. Since getting home he has spent 20 minutes in the bathroom, checked Facebook, had a fight with DS2 because he 'looked at me', had a snack and spent ages texting someone. He has just gone out with the papers.

FrigideBarjot · 27/11/2013 17:14

I have 2 long haired DDs and what bugs me is the hair EVERYWHERE.
Clogging up MY hairbrush
Blocking the shower
Carpeting the bathroom floor
I even found some in the dishwasher filter the other day

Sparklingbrook · 27/11/2013 17:17

No hair here Frigide, but DS is at the elastic band stage with his braces. The teeny tiny bands are everywhere, in the sink, on the dining table, there are probably some in the dishwasher filter actually.

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