Teens and porn

[enderwoman]

Ds1 is nearly 13 and has a sister who's 10 and a brother who's 8. I am a single parent and there are no adult males in his life.
He is very interested in girls and porn. Our home computers have a filter and he understands that I expect him to use the same school Internet rules at home with the exception that he can use social networking sites (with me as a friend) and play games.

I need to have a chat to him about porn. I've been thinking about this and don't know how to explain things in a way that he doesn't feel guilty about being turned on by a scantily clad woman (say the huge photo of a woman in a bra in the window of La Senza).

I also have a 13yo DS, and fear this conversation is coming.

I think the key message for all about porn, is that it's the sex equivalent of an action movie. It's not how it really works. Too many young men expect women to orgasm on demand, be completely hairless, and to love deep throat and/or DP. It's ok to enjoy watching that, it's not ok to expect it from every women you are lucky enough to sleep with!

On top of that I think a sensible conversation about what a respectful relationship looks like is valuable here too.